By “human to cat relationship timeline profile” (a mouthful) I mean how the relationship develops; becoming stronger or fading over its duration. I want to try and compare that with the same profile for human to human relationships. This might provide some insights into cat and human behavior.
Note: this is just a discussion post. It is a new idea and clearly will be open to criticism. That is fine. I don’t mind.
Although I can only speak for myself, I believe that in general, a relationship between a person and a cat grows and develops over the lifetime of the relationship, which usually ends in the death of the cat of old age, while it is known that the average length of a marriage is about 10 years. On that basis there is likely to be a steady decline from an initial high point.
Of course it is difficult to generalize but a typical good human to cat relationship can be represented by a graph that steadily goes up and then stops abruptly at the end, while the typical good human to human relationship starts at a high point and gradually declines and flattens out before ending at zero and even at a negative, reflecting heavy divorce proceedings.
Marriages (first marriage) lasts on average about 8-10 years in the USA and UK. Some years ago I read that the average marriage in the UK lasts 9.5 years. We can add about an average of 2 years of a relationship before divorce making about 11 years in total.
This is how I envisage the two relationships in terms of a graphic timeline…
If I am more or less correct, you can see a stark difference. What is the reason for this difference? It really has to come down to the differences in behavior between the cat and the human.
These differences are discussed on the page about cats being nicer than people. In summary a cat’s behavior is more likely to contribute to building a lasting and ever more strong relationship because:
- The cat accepts us as we are. The cat is accepting.
- The cat is reliable, steady and predictable;
- the cat does not try and change you;
- the cat does not know how to behave in a mean and malicious way or play games with you;
- the cat is just there, providing a quiet presence.
These are all constructive traits. Often human behavior becomes destructive to a relationship due to selfishly pursuing self-interest, blindly.
The best marriages; the marriages that last the longest are ones in which the parties make an effort to suppress their own interests and contribute to making the union work in the belief that in the long run pursuing the interests of the couple provides a better life than pursuing self-interest. In other words when a human behaves more like a cat 😉