I love the idea, as Patrick Moore states, that humans cannot talk cat. I mean I hate the idea, but love the recognition of the fact that we can’t truly make the final connection with our cat through cat communication – vocal, olfactory and body language. We might have a perfect relationship with our cat. We should be able to communicated pretty well with our cat but we can’t talk cat. Only a cat can talk cat. This is a very good reason why we should keep two cats. They can talk to each other. This, however, is dependent on them liking each other. And it is certainly not obligatory. There are many very contented single cats with their human companion but if suitable a two cat household is best, isn’t it?
Can two cats who are strangers to each other immediately decide that they like each the moment they see each other? Yes, is the answer. It could be a No, though. You won’t be able to tell until you put the two together before adapting a newcomer.
You have a cat. You decide to get another for the sake of your cat’s welfare and well being. You obtain the agreement of a person, who has a cat that needs to be adopted, that you can see if he or she gets along with you, your cat and feels at home in your home, before adopting her. I feel this is the professional way to do things. It is very cat-centric.
Then you find that she immediately gets along with your existing cat. Your existing cat nettles up to the newcomer on first sight. Immediately, they are relaxed and content in each other’s company. How about that? You won’t get any better. And then you know that you have created the perfect home for a domestic cat.
This method of proceeding is what we mean when we say that it is not about us choosing a cat but about a cat choosing his or her associates and companions, which includes people and other cats.
I would wish that every household let their cats choose their companions rather than assuming that cats “are only cats” and will get on in due course. That attitude is nowhere near as refined as the former. A lot of hidden stress can build up if cats that are incompatible are forced to live their whole lives together. Cats will adapt but it can’t be as good as cats nestling up to each other the moment they see each other. If you want a near guaranteed happy family, let cats do the choosing.