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How Do Cats Choose Their Companions? — 4 Comments

  1. I concur with you both. When my tortie, Sadie, passed at 17, I was inconsolable. When I returned to our no-kill shelter the following week, I was very sad with tear-filled eyes but I knew our shelter guests needed us so I went about cleaning cages, albeit very depressed.

    Whilst cleaning out a cage, I kept feeling a smack on my head. Looking up, a huge Maine Coon had her front paws/legs stretched outside the bars as far as could be. When I opened the cage, she retracted her claws and gently touched my tears with her paws, purred and heat butt me! This behavior was in amazement to the other volunteers since she wasn’t particularly friendly since she’d returned to the shelter 9.5 months after she was adopted out (second time returned).

    That was over a year ago and I cannot imagine life without my Abby. Although I wasn’t prepared to even entertain the idea of a new feline, Abby knew it was the right thing to do. Her previous human had become gravely ill and couldn’t care for her anymore and when she returned to the shelter, she was depressed!

    Who’d have thought two lonely souls could be joined by a smack in the head? Guess she was saying “C’mon Mom, smarten up! I’m right here!” Yes, cats do prefer to pick their humans and I’m so grateful they do!

    • Beautiful story. Cats pick people quickly. It is instinctive and it is in an instant. There is something going on which we don’t completely understand.

  2. I have experienced a cat really liking me alot more than his caretaker simply because I connect with him more and empathise with him and can see his needs etc. His owner loves him dearly but just doesn’t understand him or empathise with him as he should so Jerry (the cat) just loves me because he craves some understanding. Jeff (his caretaker) was always amazed at how much Jerry loved me and would do all kinds of things with me he never did before and be much more affectionate towards me.

    Jeff just doesnt understand things on a more subtle level albeit that he loves Jerry very much, I would say he just doesnt know how to love Jerry how Jerry needs to be loved and I guess at some point the ‘he’s just a cat’ thing must therefore be a part of it. I am so sad for Jerry being locked up with a couple who dont know how to truly take care of him, I always tried to convince Jeff and his girlfriend that Jerry needed a buddy to play with and they thought about it but would back away on the idea when it came down to really doing it. Jerry was also front declawed, something I dont know if he came like that from the shelter or if the couple had anything to do with it. Very sad. And the moral of the story here is that they love him very much, but on their own terms.

    An outsider would see nothing wrong with them perhaps and not understand if the cat was unhappy or not very giving of himself to them. People just don’t truly give in a sense. They love because they want to love but in a sort of selfish way, but wont try harder if Jerry is not doing so well and just give up. I would honestly suggest they go out and buy a big teddy bear and cuddly that because they are not ready to have a cat in their home. Just my thoughts.

    Of course it being Canda in this case, perhaps Jerry would have been killed at the Toronto humane society if they hadnt taken him. Its a god awful ‘humane’ society to be honest with a lot of bad stories behind it. I had my kittens spayed there once and bad vibes were dripping off the walls in that place and that was before I knew anything about anything cat or rescue related.

    I didnt know it was a place of torture and killing then. If I did, I would never have set foot in that place. But I do remember such a bad vibein there I just wanted to run out of the place. Cats are all different and have different needs. People are the same. Thats why I think Michael is right, its to do with Chemistry and in that I would include a persons emotional and spiritual capabilities and sensitivities.

    • As usual I think you hit the nail on the head. You say, “I connect with him more and empathise with him..” and Jerry loved his cat “but on their own terms..” I seems that cats do choose on the chemistry between them and us. The chemistry is that they sense through all kinds of signals that we put out such as our voice, our demeanour, and perhaps something we don’t understand and they do, that we are friendly and “one of them”. It translates as empathy and understanding and the cat knows when we understand them. And I know it sounds like mumbo jumbo but I think cats do like certain people more than others. But, yes, a certain type of person is going to be liked by cats much more than other people. It is a person who gets into the head of a cat and loves ’em on their terms.

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