How do I make a cat love me less?

How do I make a cat love me less? This is a real question by a nice looking women (Samantha?) who obviously gives off the right vibes and smells for cats. She was or is staying at her parent’s house. Her parents’ cat, who is a gorgeous looking, laid back, ginger boy by the look of it, has fallen head over heels in love with her. As she is leaving her parents house soon she says:

The cat is obsessed with me, attached at my hip 24/7…..How do I make this cat more attached to my parents so it does not commit suicide when I leave the home? Am I a motherf**king cat whisperer? No, I am just annoyed…

She is obviously genuinely annoyed. That is the impression she gives in her words (but see the video below for a slightly different scenario). She pushes this cat away she says and tries to get him to stop being so attracted to her but without success. But truthfully, I think she likes cats and cares. Can we suggest something?

Here is a video of her with the cat she is writing about. By the way, I have no idea what she is talking about but the cat is so cute in his behavior.

Here is a still picture of this cat, in case the video disappears:

The cat who loved too much

The cat who loved too much

My Suggestion

Stop moaning about this cute cat 😉 You have a charming friend during the time you are at your parents. If I were you, I’d enjoy it and feel privileged to be to attractive to a cat and probably all cats. You can put that on your CV. If you are attractive to cats it means you’re good. Cats know whose good and bad….And when you leave your parents he’ll just have to get used to it. And you know what? He will get used to it, silently and without fuss.

Your words are conflicting. I sense that you care about cats because, despite what you say, and the way you say it, you are concerned about this cat.

The Suggestions of Others

Here is a sample of the suggestions by other people:

  • “Cheat on it with another cat, right in front of it” – My comment about this: I would doubt very much that this would have any effect at all. The idea is to make this cat jealous. On the basis that cats can feel jealousy what if he is not the jealous kind?
  • “Hug the cat fairly hard until he becomes fed up with you“. Comment: this is based on what is called “corporal cuddling” from one of the those funny cat videos. I don’t like this idea – simple as that. It is based on punishment. It is also so unfair and destructive to punish a cat in such a subtle way when the cat likes you so much.
  • “As much as I don’t endorse hurting cats, cat ran in front of my dad’s foot and got it’s toes stepped on. Didn’t go near my him for a month.” Comment: you are recommending inflicting pain and harm on a cat. Clearly wrong and possibly a crime, in fact.


As I have said, enjoy his attentions while you can and when you have your own place and husband etc. adopt a cat who needs a home. I have a feeling that you’ll be a great guardian and caretaker.

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How do I make a cat love me less? — 6 Comments

  1. What a beautiful cat,but what an egotistic immature girl. I agree she is using him to make herself look irresistable,she needs to grow up,we are not impressed. Lie down and any loving cat will come and join us,it’s what they do and I love it.

  2. I think that cat will gravitate to anyone willing to allow it. He is one of the cheerful loving ones. Not a one person cat. The girl is just enjoying and exploiting the character of the cat. If that is the case, pretty cute. We don’t know her, but I sure recognize the personality of that cat. He will love most anyone I think.

    Kind of reminds me of a certain big red cat I know and love. I could make th same video. Hahaha. The old lady version. Less seductive lol. Marvin would play his role perfectly.

  3. She is an attention seeking person who obviously loves herself very much. She’s lying there (who on earth lies down to make a video unless they want to look seductive?) and naturally the cat will lie with her as she’s obviously made a big fuss of him before and made him attached to her.
    Her parents probably haven’t had a look in with the cat, far from committing suicide he will adjust after she’s gone if they pay him lots of attention.
    Sorry but it makes me angry that she is using this cat’s love to make herself look more important than she really is.

  4. The cats regular caretakers could just be losers and the cat is desperate. It’s more than sad actually. To be honest I cant watch the video having read the article. I don’t think it would be very pleasant. Tell her parents to take more care of the cat I suppose so when somebody who is nice comes over the cat doesn’t get totally hooked anymore. Otherwise stop complaining unless you enjoy it and don’t mind betraying the innocence of a cat who loves you too much.

    • A comment packed full of humour and amusement 😉 Nice point about the cat’s owners. What are they doing? Not much by the look of it. I have never heard of a person trying to get a cat to stop liking them until I noticed this story. I’d be honored and I’d lap it up.

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