Learning to love a cat. Photo by MendocinoAnimalCare

Has anyone entered into a relationship with a cat that was unplanned and almost a duty at the beginning? Have you taken in a cat who needs you and then learned to love that cat more than you would have imagined?

This is really a post about learning to love a cat. A lot of cat adoptions are made on the basis of liking the appearance of a cat at first sight or a cat selecting the human at a cat rescue centre or at a cat breeders facility. Under these circumstances, there is an initial bonding between cat and human. The relationship should develop from a good start.

However, sometimes, a person looks after a cat because they feel obliged to do it. The obligation comes from a desire to save a cat for whatever reason. The motivation is really about cat welfare and not an initial attraction to the cat.

Under these circumstances the relationship can take various courses. Each one depends on the person. I believe that if the person has a genuine empathy with animals and of course cats, the relationship will flourish.

In fact, I would argue that a relationship with a cat that starts in such an average way can develop into something very special because the beginning is so inauspicious. A bad or difficult start can be the catalyst for the development of a brilliant relationship –  you can learn to love a cat. Don’t be sidetracked into being overly focused on appearance or even personality.

As stated, it is down to the person to manage the relationship. If managed well, it is very likely that the relationship will develop into something unexpected and special for both parties.

I would encourage people to adopt an unwanted rescue cat or a cat on the street who comes to you. Look after him and be patient. In time, you will realise that you have a close companion who you would miss most severely if he wasn’t around. You would have learned to love him and it is likely to be a deeper love than you had ever expected.