Attention Seeking Behaviour in Cats

According to Franny Syufy (on attention seeking behaviour in cats is one of the most common complaints about cat behaviour. With respect to Franny, to be perfectly frank, I find that very hard to believe because a lot of the time people complain about the cat being aloof and independent (the opposite). The domestic cat is known to be independent. They mind their own business. I feel sure that 90% of domestic cats mind their own business and will ask for food when required and sometimes ask for our involvement in other activities such as playing. But feline attention seeking behaviour does not ring a bell with me. I think it is a concept based on our perception of cat behavior via anthropomorphization. The best books on cats don’t refer to attention seeking behavior.

  Attention seeking behaviour in cats
Attention seeking behaviour in cats? Or just a polite request for food or to play?
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That said, I’m sure Jo Singer knows a bit more about feline attention seeking behaviour than I do because she has two Oriental Shorthair companions and they are part of the Siamese family of cats who are known to be very vocal and loyal. Purebred cats in the Siamese family are probably more likely to be attention seeking, if that is how a person wishes to describe a cat who wants some sort of interaction with his/her human companion.

I would not call the behavior of a cat who wishes to interact with their human companion, “attention seeking behaviour”. I would call it fun and friendship. Of course, there may be times when a person does not want to be interrupted, in what they’re doing, by their cat. That is fine. A person can simply spend a short time with their cat and then carry on, or feed their cat if that is what the cat is asking for.

Franny describes the following things as possible examples of attention seeking behaviour in cats:

Howling at night.  With respect again, this is not an attention seeking behaviour. It is nearly always done by elderly cats who are perhaps confused due to dementia. When a domestic cat howls at night, the cat is not seeking the attention of a person, they are simply expressing undirected emotion.

Begging for food and food treats.  Yes, cats do ask for food because usually the only source of food comes from us and therefore they must ask us for it. Sometimes people create routines in conjunction with their cat which become habits and these habits result in the cat asking for food perhaps more often than they should do. Personally, I don’t see this as attention seeking. I see it as habit and routine forming behavior because of the behaviour of both cat and person. It can be broken gently in various ways one of which is simply to not respond quite so promptly to a demand for food or provide food which is not a favourite but good quality nonetheless.

Pawing at your arm or leg. My only experience of this is when my cat lies next to me and he may put his arm out to mine to create contact between himself and me. Sometimes a cat will poke and prod a person to wake them up or arouse them. This is usually a request to feed them as is probably what is happening in the video on this page (the cat is a Scottish Fold and seeks attention in a most delicate and adorable way). Personally, once again, I would not describe this as attention seeking behaviour. It is a request. We all make requests.

Insistent meowing. Yes I have heard about this in some cats. My cat, Charlie, does meow like a Siamese cat but he only does it when he knows he is about to be fed. Some cats are more vocal than others and once again I have to refer to the well-known vocalisations of the Siamese cat and Siamese family of cats. I am probably out of step with many people but I don’t see insistent meowing as attention seeking behaviour. I see it as a committed request for something and the best response is to do the thing that is being requested while paying attention to the dangers of overfeeding due to feline boredom. A cat over-demanding food should be distracted with play and interaction rather than simply providing food on demand. A lot of what we do could be described as a insistent behaviour if we apply the same criteria to ourselves as we do to the domestic cat.

Inappropriate scratching.  I’m very surprised to see that Franny has listed this as an example of attention seeking behaviour in cats. It simply cannot be described as that. Scratching is normal feline behaviour with many benefits for the cat. We all know about it. It has nothing to do with seeking the attention of a person. Perhaps people sometimes believe that if a cat is scratching something, the cat is deliberately trying to irritate the person and thereby force the person to pay attention to them. I don’t believe that this is the case. I don’t believe that cats deliberately do naughty things (in the eyes of the person) to get the attention of the person.

As Franny says, so-called attention seeking behaviour in a cat may be due to an illness causing pain and the cat is responding to it but most often a cat who is ill will do the exact opposite to seeking attention. They simply find a place to hide and be still.  Cats suffer pain in silence and stillness.

I do not believe that attention seeking behavior in cats is something that needs “correcting”. If a cat is irritating a person because she is meowing too much then the person should ask themselves what they are doing to create the situation which causes this to happen because the causes almost invariably come back to the environment created by the person and the behaviour of the person.  As cat behaviourist realise, cat behaviour is really about human behaviour.

11 thoughts on “Attention Seeking Behaviour in Cats”

  1. My thoughts exactly. A Cat is a Cat if you dont like it dont get a Cat its that simple. Yea my Cats knowingly do things like knock things off benches etc.

  2. I’m a little ambivalent about whether attention seeking behavior exists or not.

    I would say that, most of the time, what humans may see is a cat trying to eleviate boredom rather than intentionally behaving in a manner that gets attention.

    However, there are times when I believe a cat will do something knowing that it will elicit a response and invoke interaction simply because they’ve learned that. It’s been tried and true over and over. A very smart cat knows their caretaker’s routines. For instance, Damon knows when I’m getting ready to take a shower because he has watched my pre-shower routine over and over. When I get to the bathroom, he’s sitting in the shower all cutesy and loving wanting to be petted. It’s not at all annoying to me and he, certainly, isn’t lacking for attention. He wants it when he wants it. That’s Damon.

    • a cat will do something knowing that it will elicit a response and invoke interaction simply because they’ve learned that

      I agree it is a learnt response but the person has also learnt to do certain things to get that response and feline attention seeking is about the cat trying to get something at the end of the process (play etc) whereas the goal of true attention seeking is getting attention.

  3. As I was reading this article, this happened. I managed to lift the ipad in order to snap a picture. This is a typical morning routine with Marvin. He hops on the counter, weaves through my legs as I’m walking getting my coffee, jumps in my lap…he will even walk on my biscuit for a head bump until finally, I settle down with him and spend a miminum of half hour completely focused on him and he knows it if my mind wanders. Or if I am reading about other cats! This is at 5:AM mind you. Does it bother me? Of course not. I look forward to it. But he is insistent. The photo may show up dark after resizing it. Sorry. But you get the picture.

    • I get the picture and a great illustration of a cat interacting with a person. For me (and I think for you) it is not attention seeking but just interacting, being buddies. Buddies don’t seek attention they do things together.

      Nice photo. Well done in getting it DW.

  4. A cat shouldn’t have to seek attention, it should be given to him gladly. Anyone who doesn’t have time for their cat shouldn’t have one. It makes me so annoyed when people don’t appreciate how lucky they are to have cats in their life.
    I’m surprised too at Franny listing inappropriate scratching since she’s very against declawing.
    I think a lot of cat ‘experts’ don’t really know as much about cats as Michael and his PoC visitors do, what’s more we care about cats, all cats, not just our own.

    • I think that thought Ruth that people who interact with their cats enough remove the need for attention seeking behaviour even if it does exist and I don’t think it does anyway.

  5. Well that is exactly what I was thinking, why have a cat if you don’t want to interact with it, and furthermore if the cat has to tap you on the arm or seek your attention in some other way for the basic necessities of life like food, drink and attention then you’re not doing your job as caretaker up to standard.

    • My thoughts exactly. Sometimes I feel that I am out of step with mainstream opinion regarding cat ownership. In fact, I’m pretty sure that I am out of step with mainstream opinion. However, I still believe I am correct. I do believe that we are anthropomorphising the domestic cat and interpreting their behaviour with reference to human behaviour. I don’t believe cats are attention seeking and all and if they do wish to interact with us we should enjoy it and like it.


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