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Cats are not aloof, it is just that you’re not paying attention — 4 Comments

  1. I’ve always felt a bond with cats, but never really interacted with cats on a personal level until I rescued Spunky. He was so active that I had to be just to keep up with him.

    I think cats are aloof in a manner. They form relationships at their choosing, and don’t require or submit to training.

    These days I have regular conversations with my cats. I when hold the dog gate for them, rather than making them jump out pass through. We have dog gates at each interior doorway so the cats can pass through, but the dogs can’t.

    I move stuff off the TV table so Lucy can jump and sit beside me. And so on.

    I suggest that some dog owners need to interact with their pups. I think dogs need more attention from humans than cats do and then people wonder why their dog misbehaves or is aggressive.


  2. Interesting article Michael. Maybe this is why some of us just inherently “know” that we are “cat people.” I have felt an affinity to cats ever since I can remember. I am drawn to them. It seems that with every cat I have ever met, I have felt an almost electrical connection, that goes beyond any definition of words. Cats do not come across as “aloof” in my mind, they are simply acting as felines. Cats possess a mystical quality that I think people who are not “cat people” misinterpret. ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿพ

  3. WE know that most people don’t understand cats, and even those of us who do well with cats aren’t entirely knowledgeable as to why. I think we just start out on a level playing field, giving cats equal time and consideration for their needs, and it blossoms from there. People need to remember that they are the least domesticated of domesticated animals and that they live in our world, apart from their natural one where they feel comfortable, and we’re used to getting our way so there is that; also some people treat them like dogs. They aren’t. All they really want is our friendship but we have rigid demands on them, but they have needs too. Cats appreciate a social contract of reciprocity, but people often won’t sign off on that. We’re supposedly smarter yet we don’t get that. Cats are easy when we understand them. I’ve often marveled at how they will do what I want without my asking, after I do what they want: treat them right. There are some good people out there who’ve written good books, like “The Way Of Cats” by Pamela Merritt. Also a study of cat’s inherent social structure was done by Alger and Alger in ’99 that blew my mind. Usually I get bored reading cat books because they’re aimed at beginners, but the scientific paper supporting “Cat Culture” is engrossing if you like serious study. People who don’t get cats call them aloof, so all they need to do is a little reading with an open mind and let them teach us as well. I think that’s what is meant by “attention”.

    • Great comment Albert Schepis. I am interested in reading about cats also. I am going to look up your references. ๐Ÿพ

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