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Chaotic life of woman and her seven cats made homeless because of domestic violence — 10 Comments

  1. If her story is legitimate, I pray she gets help soon. Summers are way too hot to live in cars, even with the windows cracked just enough to keep the cats inside. What a horrific situation!

    • Yes, I agree. It is a horrible situation and although I am concerned for her the cats are particularly vulnerable as they are in the car all the time. Not good.

    • Irish gofundme are very irritating. They don’t take you to the page even though Google links to it. They take you to their home page to try and force people to explore the site. Horrible. Sorry I can’t find the page.

  2. I understand 100% that many people on FB wont help because they think it is a scam,it has happened to me and cost me funding but by haters,I even had one horrible woman in FL accuse me of not having cats and only scamming for $ so I could fly to the UK and that the photo’s were not my cats but cats I got off google images and then she told me if I did have cats that she wanted me to fly them to FL and I’m thinking this woman is unhinged and finally I needed help from FB to get her to stop trolling me,I’ll share her gofundme and hopefully some will donate but I cant until next week.

    • Yes, your experience does not surprise me. There is a lot of good on FB but also a lot of stuff which is unhelpful and downright horrible. Sorry I can’t find the fund raising page. I should have linked to it when I wrote the article but pressure of time got to me.

  3. This looks like a train wreck in the making. It is really easy to destroy appeals by voicing doubt. I am so glad she has an ex police officer on her side.

    For people not to judge is hard when real scams exist, but to base negative judgement in the aftermath of a domestic violence situation is foolish. For cat advocates to get snotty that she did not do what she was told/suggested shows up those judges as 100% ignorant of DV situations. I can understand their frustrations, but Cynthia is about as vulnerable as someone on 21st century earth can be.

    I hope help can help her.

    I know of a lady in a US state who is in late middle age, living in her car with her six cats. She is almost invisible, as are her pleas for help. She is difficult to communicate with partially because she has been traumatised badly and partially because she is clinging on, barely coping and at the very bottom of the hierarchy. Fear is her main driver, it keeps her and her cats alive. Her reason for living in such an awful way is an example of how one person (not the lady in the car) along with crack and meth can destroy an entire and fairly functional family pretty quickly.

    • Thanks Jane for your thoughts on this. DV must be hell for the victim. And to be responsible for 7 cats is going to make things almost impossible.

      • I think that those who
        escape & survive DV are some of the strongest, bravest people on earth.

        Both of these women, despite virtually impossible conditions, are still determined to do the best for their cats, this ups their vulnerability considerably, as shown by the one cat remaining with the dodgy temporary fosterer.

        For a person who probably is at the brink of existence, their compassion to provide for their remaining, true family members can be the very reason she is harmed again.

        Last year I became aware of women in the UK living in cars due to losing their homes due to the harsh social security system, domestic troubles, mental health etc. One woman was 82, her daughter,59. Neither in great health. Both still looking for work. Any work, to pay for food and extra bedding in the winter.

        It struck me, their hopes for income were not high enough for even a deposit on a rental (UK rental prices are often very high) This is the shock of homelessness speaking, it’s a necessity for survival – a person’s horizons shrink in all directions to the limit of immediate, physical need.

        At least the two mother & daughter had each other, they acknowledged their “good fortune” too, in a humble way. It is said that social isolation is akin to heart disease in that it can trim decades off of life. Having my cats would focus me I hope, into meeting their needs & getting back to stability & function. But I don’t know if anyone can accurately predict what they would do if these circumstances were foisted on them, no chance to make even a “wrong choice” – a common response from those who judge those who are homeless to be at fault. As if blame and fault is of any use! Would the same people judge the cats? Often there is simply no fault. We just have vast systems that are terminally broken.

        Life is too cruel too often.

        • Jane, I think you describe the situation very well as usual. We have to be very sympathetic to people who are victims of domestic violence and who have become homeless. There are refuges in the UK as you no doubt know for women who are victims of domestic violence. They don’t take pets as far as I know. So it is a great sacrifice to hang onto your cat companions under the circumstances. For me, it is borderline whether it is acceptable to hang onto your cats under the circumstances but then again to relinquish them to a cat shelter may lead to their death. It is a very difficult situation. Facebook can come to the aid of these people as I describe in the article. I just felt that this particular individual was not very resourceful even though the circumstances were dire.

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