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  1. It may be that I am wrong. But my cat and the other cats in the household, even when they are outdoors, do not exhibit that human trait. They simply want to solve the issue in their own way, and I respect that. 🙂

  2. Alot of it i believe comes from Fear and anxiety. Alot I believe how the Cat or kitten was bought up the same for Us humans.
    I know there prob people that will disagree, and that’s fine. I know myself with the Cats here, they often get jealous if one of the cats gets abit more attention and esp since the younger kitty coming into the house. Even tiger who likes to sleep in Robs room if there is another Cat in there, they get upset. Although they all get equal love.

  3. ‘. . . jealousy itself is not built around romantic relationships and losing a boyfriend and girlfriend, but founded upon competition between siblings for family resources, something that is hardwired into our brains. In short, jealousy is about survival.’

    The latter part of this sentence reflects the views of Steven Pinker.

    As for the first part, why exclude romantic relationships? The ones portrayed in novels had much to do with amassing lucre: none of the hunks adored by the plain-featured heroines of Engl. Lit. lived in shotgun shacks. Pamela’s and Shamela’s prey, Jane Austen’s heroes, Edward Rochester, Maxim de Winter lived in ancestral estates, sustained by the income from Jamaican plantations, its residue apparently persisting into the early 20th century (Maxim never worked for a living). And – Austen’s excepted – these novels all have the same theme: a wren of a girl competing against and vanquishing her bird-of-paradise rival.

    Which points to plenty of romantic competition for a good in short supply. What is the male psychology? Do not know. Not being a male, do not understand the frequent male tendency to reach beneath themselves socially, unless his choice would make a trophy wife on the strength of her looks. (Which isn’t, of course, how it happens in the novels. It’s always her ‘inner beauty’ he treasures.) The female psychology? There are more women than men. Equally dire, men drop like flies. Women outlive them by decades.

    Women compete for limited resources, but also for the equally yearned-for, dizzying joy of eclipsing their rivals, of being favored and preferred, singled out and cherished. Of being exalted, in the eyes of others, by masculine devotion.

    ‘I had already risen in importance from my lunch with him, for as we got up from the table the little maître d’hotel rushed forward to pull away my chair. He bowed and smiled – a total change from his usual attitude of indifference – picked up my handkerchief that had fallen on the floor, and “hoped Mademoiselle had enjoyed her lunch.” Even the page boy by the swing doors glanced at me with respect.’

    [Rebecca (underlined), Daphne du Maurier]

    But unless she aleady has a comfortable income, she’ll think twice before she sets her sights on a man who sells vacuum cleaners door to door. No getting around it: a ‘Manderley’ sweetens her glory in landing the bloke. Will she cleave to him even when his mansion is torched to the ground by the wife bouncing around in the attic, or an equally loony ‘Mrs. Danvers?’ Well, probably. After he’s been scarred and blinded by the fire or otherwise demolished, she’ll feel sorry enough to stick around and prop up what little is left of him.

    There’s more to this, though. When you’re feeding treats to a couple of horses, they’ll stand in front of you side by side, neither horse facing the other, but both of them glaring at each other from the corners of their billiard-ball eyes that flash rancorous sclera. Again, Pinkertonian rivalry for finite goodies.

    Beyond that, however, the scene shifts into intangibles, the withholding of which causes grievous pain. Pampered and well-fed dogs and cats (and hogs, pet rats & chickens, et al.) with no physical needs will show immense hurt if you make much of one and ignore the other, a cruel deprivation no feeling parent would think of inflicting on his glabrous, furred & feathered children.

    • Hi Sylvia. Great comment. I didn’t intend to exclude romantic relationships. What I am trying to say is that jealousy is not, at its root, to do with romantic relationships. The emotion goes deeper.

    • Daphne du Maurier. Great comment, Sylvie.
      Jane Austin and her perspective on any subject is close as I can get to perfection <3

  4. I don’t know if jealousy is what it really going on here or not. For lack of something better, that’s what I’ll call it.
    But, most of my cats want what they see another getting whether it’s a kiss, a pet, a treat, or a play time. They intrude on whatever is going on like thay don’t want to be left out.

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