How to Keep the Cat in a Split-up

by Michael

Victim of divorce - Photo by highstrungloner (Flickr)

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Victim of divorce - Photo by highstrungloner (Flickr)

A recent divorce case in the United States has reminded me how to work the court system to your advantage in a divorce. You know what happens in divorce. People fight over their possessions. Children are possessions to some married couples. They fight over them. It is very distressing for spectators, judges and the kids. The waring parties don't see it that way.

Often the wife has the upper hand as there is a presumption that the children live with her and the working father has contact with his children at the weekends.

If the parties are fighting over arrangements, the mother often stops or restricts contact between the children and her former husband, the children's father.

Court proceedings follow and these grind along. Over the intervening months and years the father loses a connection with his kids and the kids get used to living with mum.

You can see where this leads. A judge does not want to upset the settled status quo and it makes it hard for the father to get contact after lengthy court proceedings. The presumption that the mother gets the kids turns to hard fact.

So if you are fighting over the cat. Get the cat at the outset, from the moment you leave the house and close the front door behind you.

Then stop contact between cat and the other party. Over time a judge will not wish to upset the arrangement. You'll get the cat.

Warning to divorcing couples: don't fight over the kids or the cat! Be sensible and agree everything to do with children and cats at the outset. Do this for them.

Michael

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Feb 14, 2012
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death of caretaker also problematic NEW
by: Ruth (Monty's Mom)

Your article brought another situation to my mind, Michael, and that's when a cat's caretaker dies. So often you see cats ending up in shelters when that happens. I guess just like you might get a cat prenup-- deciding in advance who will get the cat-- you should also provide for your cat in your will or at least informally find someone who will agree to take the cat if something happens to you. I have informed my husband on numerous occasions that if something happens to me he is to keep Monty and take over all his care, including the poop scooping. I worry more about what would happen if both of us went together, say in a car accident. This is something that should be thought out ahead of time. I had a husband die when he was 33. Stuff happens. So I wonder: Would my parents take Monty? But they are getting older and he's a young cat. Could my sister? Not with her current cat-- they don't get along. This was really brought to mind for me when a childhood friend passed recently from cancer. I think I was more worried about her cat than for her. I knew Ingrid was going to a better place, but how sad for Zuli, her cat, to be left behind. I think a divorce can lead to a similar sad situation, but no one is thinking about the suffering of their animals because they are in the midst of so much suffering themselves.


Feb 12, 2012
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How to keep the cat. NEW
by: Mary O

And in the event of my divorce...although, I can't see that happening, I would fight tooth and cat claw to keep my cat children. Hmmmmm wonder if I should have gotten a pre catnip prior to our nuptials! I hope in the case you provided the man will continue to care for his kitty forever! If it happened to me I may consider at least chaperoned visitation for my ex. Because, even though we may not agree, I would never of married him in the first place if he didn't love the kitties with all his heart!


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