Victim of divorce - Photo by highstrungloner (Flickr)
A recent divorce case in the United States has reminded me how to work the court system to your advantage in a divorce. You know what happens in divorce. People fight over their possessions. Children are possessions to some married couples. They fight over them. It is very distressing for spectators, judges and the kids. The waring parties don't see it that way.
Often the wife has the upper hand as there is a presumption that the children live with her and the working father has contact with his children at the weekends.
If the parties are fighting over arrangements, the mother often stops or restricts contact between the children and her former husband, the children's father.
Court proceedings follow and these grind along. Over the intervening months and years the father loses a connection with his kids and the kids get used to living with mum.
You can see where this leads. A judge does not want to upset the settled status quo and it makes it hard for the father to get contact after lengthy court proceedings. The presumption that the mother gets the kids turns to hard fact.
So if you are fighting over the cat. Get the cat at the outset, from the moment you leave the house and close the front door behind you.
Then stop contact between cat and the other party. Over time a judge will not wish to upset the arrangement. You'll get the cat.
Warning to divorcing couples: don't fight over the kids or the cat! Be sensible and agree everything to do with children and cats at the outset. Do this for them.