In Memory of Cassy

By Kylee

This is in memory of my girl Cassy who passed away on 17/1/2014. She had problems breathing and had neurology problems. The vet said she would only last a few more days.

So I made the, ever such hard, decision to let her go. She was a sensitive type cat, timid loved lots of cuddles and was a special girl. I had her for 10 years which I guess is 54 in human years. She helped me a lot when I was depressed and made a huge difference in my life. I wasn’t hoping she would go so soon.

She’s been buried out at my mum’s with an angel protecting her. I got some flowers for her memory. It’s so sad to see her go and I miss her terribly. I’ve put a few pics of her and hope in rainbow heaven she’s been looked after. I’m left with four of her brothers so I know I need to hang in there for her.

Thanks, Kylee

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Kylee thanks for sharing I know it’s hard but it does help alot. I also buried my cat Red when he died – I also have a couple photos of him before I buried him. I’m so sorry – it’s so hard to go through such a loss. For those of us who know and love our cats it’s a huge loss.

Like you I have Red’s younger sister and another familly relation cat – his aunt technically speaking. I see so much of him in his sister which is wonderful and a great relief as I feel I still have him in that little way, through her. You need ot be strong for the remaining brothers. Sounds like you took in a whole litter of kittens. That’s wonderful. It’s nice to have just one family.

I couldn’t eat and felt and awful knot in my tunny for a month or two after my Red died – it was the hardest thing I went through in my life and the only being close to me other than my father who I have lost in my life.

Cassy is/was a beautiful tabby cat – she will always be with you. I hope your husband will be ok too. Remember that the other cats feel grief too. You might find them a little unmotivated or just acting a bit off since they will likely feel the same emptiness – obviously depending how well they got on and how connected they were to Cassy. My cat Lilly just loved Red and she was clearly very lost for a couple months too when Red passed. We were both really in it together. I believe cats feel it just the same as humans after that. Both Lilly and I lay on the couch very sad together for a long time.

I still think of Red everyday. I kept the carpet he use to lie on with all his fur stuck to it and I made a little shrine at home for him withhis favourite toys and I visit his grave which I made myself in a nice quiet place with nature around which he loved so much.

Cassy is in a better place – shame she had to go so soon – it’s hard for everyone left behind but I suppose she is fine now wherever she is.

My first reaction when Red passed was feeling trapped because I was holding him and I just couldn’t register that he was dead and that he couldn’t hear me anymore. How I wish he could hear me at least. I secretly wish and think that maybe he can hear me. That would be nice – if I could still talk to him – if he could at least hear me, and maybe see me. He was wnderful. It’s very hard.

Thank you anyway for sharing. I will save pics of Cassy to my computer – and think nice thoughts about her. Sorry for your loss – may she rest in peace.

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In Memory of Cassy — 22 Comments

Dan in Tempe on January 22, 2014 at 11:45 pm said:
I’m so sorry for your loss. 🙁
What a little angel she was. Hold on to the other cats and adopt one in her place if you’re able. It may help ease your mourning. May she rest in peace.
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- kylee on January 23, 2014 at 9:05 am said:
  hi there im looking after the four remaining cats that i have. will post some time. I have noticed that the other cats, dont seem to like being in the last room she was last seen in. They dont even sleep in there. I guess they can smell her scent still. I been feeling alot better about things. Cant believe it be a week tomorrow. Its just great to have the support of fellow cat lovers. thanks so much xxx
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  - Jeff on January 24, 2014 at 11:40 pm said:
    Kylee,
    So sorry to hear of your loss. Your story was so sad and touching. I like the way you laid Cassie in the box as if she was sleeping. We always know when we begin to share our lives with a cat that there will be a painful goodbye at some point. We are probably going to outlive our cat.
    My friend Ingrid had the opposite experience. Her cancer, which was supposedly cured when she was seven, came back when she was 41 and took her life. She was most worried about her cat, finding a home for her, feeling sad that Zuli was missing her.
    So even though it’s really hard, Cassie had you right up until the end. You bear the grief, but she does not. She was safe and loved with you, truly a lucky cat in life and death.
    I do believe animals have souls. I find it just silly to say that they don’t. I believe she lives on in some way we can’t fully understand from this plane, but she knows your love still. I believe love survives everything, even death. I’m always telling my cat Monty that for all his short life I will love him, and even after that, forever and ever. He just looks at me waiting to hear a food word.
    Ruth
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    - Ruth (Monty's Mom) on January 24, 2014 at 11:44 pm said:
      Sorry, that was me, not my husband in the above comment. I forgot to change it back on the computer after my husband commented on my article about the cat furniture he built.
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      - kylee on January 28, 2014 at 10:32 am said:
        thats no problem ruth. I think im getting though this. Things are abit better around here. Going to get a new kitty in about 8 weeks, a friend has some shes going to hold one for me.
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valerie (surrey) on January 22, 2014 at 7:32 pm said:
So sorry for your loss RIP Kylee it isn’t easy to make that decision but best to let her go than suffer any more I lost my Tiggy last September as she had a heart condition
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Elisa on January 22, 2014 at 5:20 am said:
I love the photo where you’ve placed the keepsakes in her box. She was so lucky to have known so much love.
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- Michael on January 22, 2014 at 7:13 am said:
  I found the photos very poignant. Cassy in the box wrapped up as if asleep is very touching.
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- kylee on January 22, 2014 at 10:53 am said:
  She was very loved by us both. I got her as a kitten and she just had something about her that was so special she was a Quiet cat but gave so much love back. We wanted to give her a propery buriel as she was so much more than a cat. thanks for lovely comments it really great to be in a community that cares.
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Dee (Florida) on January 21, 2014 at 4:19 pm said:
I’m so sorry for your loss, Kylee. I think everyone here understands your pain and grief.
Cassy was beautiful. I love her brown tones.
Please keep us updated on how you and your partner are doing as well as the boys you have.
R.I.P. Cassy.
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- kylee on January 22, 2014 at 4:48 am said:
  thank you all so much i will do for sure its so great to be part of a loving and supportive community
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Ruth aka Kattaddorra on January 21, 2014 at 11:02 am said:
Kylee I’m so sad for you, I’m in tears. No matter how many more cats you have, each one is special and leaves a huge gap in your home.
Your photos are beautiful.
Cassy looks very like our Bryan who had to be PTS at 10 years old too, such a short life.
Thinking about you x
R.I.P Cassy
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- kylee on January 21, 2014 at 11:58 am said:
  thank you my other cats were different kitties that i rescued they were going to be put down or shot and i couldnt handle that happening. i know Cass prob wasnt happy me doing that buti know she was always a special cat. Ive got two a4 pics in my lounge of cassy and tammy so it feels like thy still there. thanks for your support it means alot.
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Rudolph.A.Furtado on January 21, 2014 at 10:43 am said:
Kylee, Condolences on the loss of your cat Cassy.Any pet owner will understand the loss of a non-human companion and 10 years is a long and fruitful companionship.Your photographs tell the story of your loss.Whenever i lose someone in life, either due to death or estrangement i always console myself with these words, quote, “It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”. Be thankful for all the good and bad times with your cat Cassy.
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Barbara on January 21, 2014 at 8:47 am said:
Oh so very sad for you Kylee your poor little cat was taken at only 10, she was gorgeous and obviously very well loved, you must take some consolation from that and from the fact that when it came to making such a hard decision you did what was kindest for Cassy even though it has obviously broken your heart, yes you have to go on for the other cats in your family and because Cassy loved you and wouldn’t want you to be so depressed, cats care when we are upset so let your other cats be close to you and comfort you, you never get over a loss but you do find a way to live with it. The photos are so poignant, and brave, and they show us that Cassy is at peace and was loved and taken care of even after her life had ended. RIP Cassy. x
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- kylee on January 21, 2014 at 8:52 am said:
  yea she was a very well loved cat, my partner is struggling abit of the loss as she was very close to him. They used to have alot of what he calls snuggle cuddles. She would allow him to basically lay on her and she loved it. Its just simple things that you miss. I am Happy she had the buriel she deserved the vets were very great and understanding.
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  - Marc on January 21, 2014 at 11:47 am said:
    Kylee thanks for sharing I know it’s hard but it does help alot. I also buried my cat Red when he died – I also have a couple photos of him before I buried him. I’m so sorry – it’s so hard to go through such a loss. For those of us who know and love our cats it’s a huge loss.
    Like you I have Red’s younger sister and another familly relation cat – his aunt technically speaking. I see so much of him in his sister which is wonderful and a great relief as I feel I still have him in that little way, through her. You need ot be strong for the remaining brothers. Sounds like you took in a whole litter of kittens. That’s wonderful. It’s nice to have just one family.
    I couldn’t eat and felt and awful knot in my tunny for a month or two after my Red died – it was the hardest thing I went through in my life and the only being close to me other than my father who I have lost in my life.
    Cassy is/was a beautiful tabby cat – she will always be with you. I hope your husband will be ok too. Remember that the other cats feel grief too. You might find them a little unmotivated or just acting a bit off since they will likely feel the same emptiness – obviously depending how well they got on and how connected they were to Cassy. My cat Lilly just loved Red and she was clearly very lost for a couple months too when Red passed. We were both really in it together. I believe cats feel it just the same as humans after that. Both Lilly and I lay on the couch very sad together for a long time.
    I still think of Red everyday. I kept the carpet he use to lie on with all his fur stuck to it and I made a little shrine at home for him withhis favourite toys and I visit his grave which I made myself in a nice quiet place with nature around which he loved so much.
    Cassy is in a better place – shame she had to go so soon – it’s hard for everyone left behind but I suppose she is fine now wherever she is.
    My first reaction when Red passed was feeling trapped because I was holding him and I just couldn’t register that he was dead and that he couldn’t hear me anymore. How I wish he could hear me at least. I secretly wish and think that maybe he can hear me. That would be nice – if I could still talk to him – if he could at least hear me, and maybe see me. He was wnderful. It’s very hard.
    Thank you anyway for sharing. I will save pics of Cassy to my computer – and think nice thoughts about her. Sorry for your loss – may she rest in peace.
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  - Michael on January 21, 2014 at 11:49 am said:
    Kylee, I see you live in New Zealand. Am I correct? If so, it’s great. I love to “meet” people from far away places. PoC is an international website.
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    - kylee on January 21, 2014 at 11:54 am said:
      yep im in New Zealand
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Michael on January 21, 2014 at 8:29 am said:
Hi Kylee. So sad to hear of your loss. Your photos are very poignant. Very sad. Thank you for sharing and may Cassy rest in peace in a better place.
Good luck for the future and I hope this page helps a bit and lets us remember her.
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- kylee on January 21, 2014 at 8:41 am said:
  hi there thanks michael that certainly helps was just so sudden. It helps to know she was well loved and had a good life. I was happy she never had accidants or wasnt hurt in anyway. thank you for doing this.
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  - Michael on January 21, 2014 at 9:33 am said:
    It is my pleasure to have her memorial on PoC. I wish you the best for the future. Stick around if you have time and want to and join the conversations. We like to have you as part of the community.
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