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  1. I can’t help but wonder if maybe these “clingy” cats were taken away from their mother too soon? I know that many people give them away as early as 5 weeks, maybe younger. Some even are bottle fed and never spend any time learning from their mothers. Growing up we had an adult cat who “nursed” on my mother’s sleeve. She was an orphan and bottle fed.

  2. Ofcourse my cats are codependent.

    Entirely my doing.

    I bow to their demands as much as possible.

    I nurtured it from day one with each, and it becomes my job to deal with what I have created.

    It’s not easy. But, those insane people who only feed their cats dry food criticize that we wet feeders should never have started that at all. They think that we are insane for ever allowing a cat to depend on wet cat food from us. They have no problem verbalizing that we are costly enablers. I think that these are the people who think of their cat(s) as merely cats.

    I don’t mind clingy, hovering, “wrap around my legs all day”, or cuddly cats. It would be against my principles to only allow that behavior on my terms, ie. when I feel like it. We are equal residents here. We all have the right to have our needs met.

  3. I agree that a codependent cat is of our own making. It says more about the human than the cat.

    Maybe “clingy” cat behavior is due to anxiety, separation anxiety, or boredom and lack of stimulation. Or it’s just the cat’s personality. Codependency is occurs when to the caretaker makes the cat the center of his life in an extreme way and reinforces clingy or negative behaviors. There would be a problem if the man in the video missed work or never went out with friends because Bailey might be sad. A codependent relationship is not healthy for anyone involved. Just my opinion of course.

    I used to describe Salem as clingy, but I recently had a change of heart as I continue to learn about him. I had to board him for a week while out of town. I usually leave him at home and have a friend drop in daily, but couldn’t do that this time. When I picked him up to go home, I noticed he had a patch of hair missing. No fleas or rash, just a bald patch. Apparently this is common when cats experience change or anxiety.

    On the way home, he stared at me from the carrier while loudly purring and kneading his blanket. His pupils were constricted and his eyes fluttered. I realized then how much he missed me. I really didn’t expect that. When we got home, he leaped out of the carrier and finally started meowing and sniffing and rubbing on everything. He seemed so happy to be home.

    Maybe cats aren’t as demonstrative as dogs, but if you pay attention, they really are quite expressive. I’m not the ” lovey dovey” type, so his demands for affection can be overwhelming sometimes. I’m finally realizing he’s not clingy at all, he’s showing his love and affection and wants me to do the same.

    Never thought I say this, but my cat makes me a better person.

  4. I think that this behavior must have something to do with the kitty’s history. So, the “following” behavior is only a small part of the story. I think this behavior could be curbed with a spray of water. It might take awhile, depending on how long the behavior has been going on. This is actually a dangerous habit for the human and the cat. I’ve never had a cat do this, but I have had a “lap” cat that always jumped up when I sat down. I even thought of buying a baby sling, so I could get up and down without disturbing her. That’s pretty “co-dependent” of me! I never did buy one, but I always resisted disturbing my cat from her sound and relaxing sleep state, as many cat guardians do.

  5. MY MYSTERY IS EXACTLY THE SAME WAY,IF I’M DOING CHORES AROUND THE HOUSE HE IS RIGHT THERE UNDER FOOT,IF I’M ON THE COMPUTER LIKE RIGHT NOW HE IS LAYING IN HIS CAT BED RIGHT NEXT ME LIKE HE IS RIGHT NOW,SORRY FOR THE CAPS,I NEED A NEW KEY BOARD!
    PIC IS MY MYSTERY.

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