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My cat likes to have sex with my left arm. I allow it. — 49 Comments

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  2. Hello My neutered male cat 10 years old do the same thing. It has been almost for 3 years. Do you think they might get bacteria or infection while doing it? Thank you

  3. My 8 year old snow shoe cat does this and I don’t like it. If it were just the humping it wouldn’t be so bad, but.. If he is allowed to continue he will actually ejaculate. Does yours “finish?”😳 His big thing is anything fuzzy like blankets, but now sometimes tries to have sex with the dogs.

    He never did this until someone got my a fuzzy blanket for Christmas a few years ago. We went to sleep as usual, only this time with the blanket, and he has been sexually aggressive ever since.

    I don’t really agree with fixing animals or locking them away, but I would not risk surgery for him anyway because he has a heart murmur and ic which causes bladder inflammation.

    • My cat is neutered so can’t produce sperm. Your cat isn’t. On a practical level it makes a difference 😉 If our cats have to hump arms at least it is not messy for me! It is more likely for a cat to want to have sex if they are not neutered, I believe, but my boy wants to do it. It is only when I wear a specific dressing gown.

  4. I’m so glad I’ve found other people this happens to. I have a gray tabby as well, and since I can remember, he’s always “had his way” with my right shoulder. I have to be careful to properly bundle up the area though or it will look like I’ve been stabbed repeatedly with very tiny knives. He’s 14 now, and STILL does it. I don’t want to stop him because he does it so often and will purr in my ear while doing his thing. But I do wonder if this relates to his separation anxiety. There are two people in this apartment and no matter who leaves he cries and walks around checking every room until he lands on the remaining human. Then he has his way and when done, falls asleep on our lap. I think the other cat gets jealous because when he’s elsewhere she comes right up to my face and lays on me. No nursing, she just wants attention and seems unsure of how the other cat gets away with it so often. I’m starting to see why non-animal people think we’re crazy. Thank you for posting the video, I feel so much better now.

    • Oh I should have read some more of the replies. My cat was actually neutered quite early on, right before 6 months. Is this a sign of something serious?

    • I don’t think this behavior is linked to separation anxiety. I believe it is because he regards you as his mother (cat mother) and he wants to procreate by mating with his mother. I know it is incestuous but cats can do this. To me it is a reflection of your close relationship with him. And I am pleased you accept it as I do. It is just cat behavior and I’ll bet it happens quite a lot but most people don’t talk about it 🙂 Thanks for sharing.

  5. My cat is a two and a half years old black male, he has been neutered when he was six months. He started having sex with my legs about a year ago. I also allow him to do it. He is a sexual being and I allow him to express it. 🙂

    • I have the same reason. It is natural for him to want to do it. Why stop natural behaviour and desires? To express natural desires helps to keep a cat happy. Thanks for sharing Ashka.

  6. My sister woke up to the cat humping her arm or leg a few times. He was neutered, 7 years old, pretty friendly, average sized. I actually felt kinda bad for her because she froze up and didn’t quite know what to do. She was too scared to make him stop, so she started sleeping with her door closed. The cat eventually started sleeping with the dog (a female pit bull). We’d catch them grooming each other, or the cat really going at it while the dog just laid there. Probably the most bizarre cat behavior I’ve ever seen.

    • Gabriel is still doing it and a lot. I let him do it so he can release his natural desires. I don’t see it as a problem or weird. I see it more as natural. Which it must be actually. This is what male cat are hard-wired to do.

      • I don’t think it’s weird or problematic at all. We laugh about it now. I should have added we were about 8 and 6 years old at the time and didn’t really know what it was going on at first. My dad was red-faced trying to explain that the cat wasn’t trying to bite or harm. Poor dad wasn’t ready for the “birds & bees talk” with his girls yet! Then poor mom had to fix all the nonsense he tried to tell us. Keep in mind, many people can be really weird about sexuality in the U.S.

        The cat-dog relations were an odd sight though. I won’t be descriptive, but it was rather scandalous to my 6 year old self. I figure if that is the most “bizarre” cat behavior I’ve seen, then I can count myself lucky.

        • Keep in mind, many people can be really weird about sexuality in the U.S.

          I think this still applies in many countries today which is why some people might find this article unpleasant. For me it is an interesting slice of feline behavior.

          Because he is kneading me at the same time he is starting to hurt my arm so I may have to stop him or wear protective clothing!

          The fact that he is kneading me indicates he is mixed up about whether I am his mom or his girlfriend 😉

  7. Just bear in mind that if this behaviour remains after neutering, that it might not be quite so much fun when he’s fully grown or you have visitors 😉

    • I wonder if that’s why neutering at a very young age is so popular here. Maybe, it has to do with avoiding that memorable urge, ie. if they never had it, it doesn’t exist.
      What do you think.

      • I was thinking that too Dee, like the saying ‘What you’ve never had you never miss’
        But Gabriel sounds oversexed to me, we’ve never had any sex maniac male kittens lol

        • LOL!
          And, 10 times a day!
          Good grief. He has no time to even breath.
          He could be a star in a porno flick.
          He needs clipping NOW!!!

            • Alan, that is a very good point indeed! My dressing gown is very soft. My arm is getting sore (because he kneads me at the same time) and so is his willy (not really. It looks normal to me)! I’ll try and say this delicately. Nothing is produced except for a scent.

              • Seriously Michael, I hope he doesn’t overdo it and make his penis sore, I saw a cat once at the vets and his had got stuck out of the sheath and he had to be anaesthetised to get it back in, he was castrated at the same time. I think if I was you, if his testicles are large enough I’d get him off to the vets, the longer he is left the harder it will be for him to adjust. He should be having fun playing kitten games instead. It takes a while after the op for the male hormones to settle down anyway.

              • After 14 years living with 2 male cats, I consider myself fortunate that I never once saw a cats willy. I wouldn’t know one if it poked me in the eye.

  8. Thank God my cat is female! It may be “normal” for him to do it…but I’m not sure it’s normal for you to allow it! It’s like sitting there while your dog humps your leg…urrgg.

      • Hopefully you will get some relief (and he won’t) after he is neutered, but if not I have to ask…what form is the “training” going to take? For the benefit of others with a sexy left arm?

  9. Woo hooo, just look at those “bedroom eyes” . Bastet the goddess of cats would be more then pleased with the “lil Bugger’s high sex drive. Look out all you female felines in the area. Big Daddy is in the house! meow, purrrrfect

  10. Well I’ve never seen that before, he’s a right little raver!! You’re right, he’s doing no harm and I expect he will forget about it once he’s neutered, I hope so for your sake anyway.

  11. I actually think it’s kinda funny!! I’ve never actually seen a cat behave in this manner with a human — and I’ve had lots of cats!! All my cats are spayed/neutered, but I still have a few of the boys who still get “the urge” and they will try to mount one of the other cats. Personally, I don’t see a problem with it as it is a natural instinct and one would hate to hinder that. I don’t know if neutering will stop it completely, but at least he is actually doing no harm. Bless his heart — little sexpot — MOL!! ♥♥♥

    • My cat does this to me several times a day… He’s a very gentle boy and he does no harm. I think it’s when he gets hungry and he’s telling me he’s prepared to do “anything” for food.
      The only way to get him to stop is if I tickle the very tips of his fur anywhere on his body – he goes crazy; his fur ‘climbs’ all over in big waves and he chews like crazy at the tickled spot.
      It’s become almost a game where i just point at the spot I’m intending to tickle and he goes nuts.

      • loved your comment about tickling your cat. I have never heard of this before. It interests me. Do you gently brush the fur against the grain?

        • Morning Michael
          Oh… it’s one of my favourite teases with any cat… I very ligthly and rapidly tap my index finger to my thumb right at the tip of the hairs…. so it almost looks like i’m slightly pulling on the hair, but it’s unnecessary… something in the act of tapping the fingers and touching only a hair or two (that is the trick… touch very very few hairs) just sends them nuts. Their whole skin crawls over their frame.
          When my boy is in the height of human love; he is near the edge of sanity anyway.

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