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Positive Reflections on a Near Fatal Kitten Accident — 17 Comments

  1. That is horrible Marc, but i believe u were meant to be there for that wee kitten. I’m a firm believer in things happen for a reason even though its a horrible thing to go though. As you say if you hadn’t stayed there for an etc 5 mins you would never of known. Great article. I think yes you do have that that sensing ability. I think as cat protectors, we all have that its like that intuition when we know something is not right and we follow our heart. I often get that when something feels like something is about to happen either good or bad. Everything in life is meant to test us that’s the thing ive learn t most of all. Just thank Goodness you were there and listened to your Gut feeling.

  2. No matter how hard we try we can’t cat proof 100%.
    There are so many dangerous things for cats that we would never think about until something horrible happens.

    Ruth mentioned the washing machine. When I was a kid, my mother did laundry in a detached utility room. And, one day she piled clothes inside the washer and, just as she began to turn it on, she heard a noise and discovered a litter of kittens buried underneath the dirty clothes.
    So, all my life now I’m obsessed with aways checking washers, dryers, refrigerators, freezers, and ovens.
    And, since seeing a couple of cats reach their paws near fan blades, I only use stand-alone fans if they’re always in sight. Most of the blade guards on them won’t keep a small paw from reaching through.

    I’ve had my fair share of being torn up freeing cats from danger, usually finding them caught in fencing. Sometimes it takes everything I have inside to stay focused on the task, not project, and not freak out. Many times I’ll be weeping and not realize it.

    You have good instincts or sixth sense or whatever it is, Marc. It’s really a mystery gift that some people have been bestowed with. It can be very eerie. It’s not as simple as just being drawn to something; it’s almost like being compelled to see, to hear. I only have it when it comes to cats. I hear and see distressed cats when nobody else does.

    • I agree with what everything Dee said. We cant totally be there 100 percent. I think you have a deep sense like Intuition, towards the cats, and that’s a gift like a calling. Its so upsetting, and hurtful when see such horrible things happen to cats. It does my head in when i read over here in NZ where u hear cruelty done to animals breaks my heart. Its good you were able to tell someone as it helps to talk about the feelings your going though. I guess like all cat protectors we can be there for each other as im sure we understand what its like to see a defensive kitten/cat go though so much trauma.

  3. Marc that is horrifying! Thank goodness your sixth sense told you something was wrong. You must have felt quite ill with the shock and stress after you had freed the kitten and the reaction hit you!
    After something like that happening your mind keeps going back to it thinking….. what if?
    A neighbour’s cat almost strangled herself on a string attached to a scratching post, she got her thumb bitten to the bone while untangling her.
    I’m paranoid about our cats safety, no strings dangling, no bells or tails or small removable parts on catnip toys. I check no bags with handles are lying around. We took the bottom chain off our blinds to let them swing safely free in case one of our cats put their head through.
    I even check the washing machine if the door has been open although our cats have never ever climbed in.
    So many dangers for cats indoors as well as outdoors!
    But who would ever think a hammock was a danger so thank you for sharing this x

    • Hey Ruth – yeah it was weird. I was and still can’t get it out my head. Poor little baby let me save him. He was helpless. He was scared of me but he just focused hard and stayed still for me. It was very intense because he kept choking and I had to try not to panic overtly because it would scare him even more. Poor baby. Well at least he knows humans are there to help him now.

      You blinds sound like one of those things.

      I worry about them going in the oven, you name it, I’ve thought of it. When people come over they get alot of instructions from me 🙂

  4. I’ll go up there at some point and put the hammock how it was and take a photo to put on this page. A photo of the kitten too. Kitten is about 2 months old. Eating solid food and they are living outside with mama cats.

    • The point you make about PTSD is very relevant because I do remember bad things that have happened to my cats. I have these images in my mind. Can’t shift them. And I know I am damaged by these experiences.

      • I’ll never forget finding Red and the 2 hours which followed. I still can’t walk past that place. I’ve been taking the long route to the station for almost 2 years now. When I am with somebody I have to explain because it looks dumb going the long way.

        I think these things stay printed in your brain, complete with emotions of the time. That’s the only time I ever felt what I understand to be hysterical – when I had carried him home and sat on the couch with him on my lap I just broke down like I never have before it was very intense.

        You are right Michael, these things are quite damaging. I don’t even really know what the damage is but I know it’s there because I feel it but also because other people tell me they see it – people who know me closely I mean. My ex told me that after Red died I never made it back to normal. After a month or so I started getting back into daily life again but I don’t think my level of happiness can ever be as it was before it happened. It changed my world in too big a way to reconcile so I never could find a place for it in my memories and feelings. So it just comes and goes and I have no idea really when to expect it sometimes. Yes, the month of June, and obvious triggers, but a couple weeks ago I woke up in the night – I am sleeping on the floor next to the balcony with the doors wide open so it’s like being outside really – and I could hear all the little insects and bugs and night time noises. There are distant noises. I could smell the greenery and it felt so nice and summery. All of a sudden I realized I was in Red’s world, hearing the sounds and smelling the smells of his little world, the area where I live. I felt directly connected to him and just burst into tears like I haven’t in a long time. Amazing how close we are to certain things that we tend to categorize as abstract and far away in time or distance. But those distant experiences are instantly brought to life through an object or sound etc. I really felt him, not his presence but his lack of presence, which, oddly, is the same thing I think. His world lives on everyday without him and for the moment that’s the only way I know how to look at it. I suppose the fact that I see my garden as being incomplete signifies that I am myself incomplete – I am literally missing something.

        Well I was certainly missing him that night. I wonder if his scent lingers anywhere outside.. like where he marked territory. I found a ball of his fluff the other day. It still happens. It had a tiny smell to it. I have a bunch of his fluff in a clear box which I don’t open to preserve the air in there – I have some kind of need to smell him I guess, or to make sure some part of his smell remains here as a memorial to him.

        Talk about not being able to let go – lol – that’s potentially pretty messed up sounding but I’m ok with it. I think it’s a valid human reaction. It will be a long time before I can let go of his loss. For now, the sadness I feel when I think of him and the memories of him are like an old friend. I would feel lonely without it. I’d be scared to just change the subject. I have come to need this mourning. It balances me. It cuts through anything. It gives me, believe it or not, security. No matter what happens to me I’ll always have Red in me and I’ll always be able to feel his (lack of) presence.

        I don’t know why humans get easily addicted to painful things – my only logical conclusion is that painful things make the way forward possible. They exist. they usually come from the most wonderful things and usually involve their loss – the loss of something good. The goodness level directly affects the ensuing badness levels in the case of loss. Maybe? The more you loved the more you lost? Don’t know. If that is a reasonable theory then should we not love so much?

        Maybe we love certain things too much. Beyond reason. It’s indulgent maybe. Perhaps we should learn to love everything a little more equally and not reserve it in overdose amounts for certain things. I think it might be true. By amplifying and intensifying your love for somebody you are essentially getting drunk on love in some ways. But in doing so we become weak, we create a powerful potential to lose that thing. We guarantee ourselves extreme pain later on. But avoiding pain just means avoiding life in the long run, and avoiding pleasure, because you can’t only avoid one and not the other. If you don’t get a cat because you don’t want to lose the cat then you never have the pleasure of living with a cat. Simple as that.

        If pain and suffering and bad things are a fact of life and if they are what helps us reconstruct our lives better than before then what better way to ensure that cycle continues than to love cats!

        Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

        • Yes Marc it takes time to heal, but can tell just how much it hurt you as you truly deeply loved red, how still it takes time to get over, no matter if you have other cats the pain is still there. Its horrible losing a cat like that words can’t describe the pain. I agree certainly triggers makes it hard. Its like i can’t watch a certain program esp, if they are talking horrible against against animals or cats. I believe was more, than just an animal that’s exactly how i felt about Cass she was my everything. I truly believe things happen for a reason. It’s just like when Ozzie almost got run Over, and seeing him in so much pain and not breathing and panting. I know its not the same but was horrible and stressful seeing our cat in so much pain and felt panic and anxiety and worry. Anyway i think you did the best thing and its hard moving on from that point.

  5. lol – ok I know there’s alot of rambling in this. 🙂

    It was pretty freaky – I told a few people about it I couldn’t keep it to myself.

    It happened in the context of it being almost 2 years since Red died due to a similar but not quite purely natural cause.

    This has added to the insecurity I have over Red, danger and loss. But it’s also given me some new strength in handling my fears and paranoia constructively. I also think that these sorts of things happen more often than I thought but that perhaps often there is somebody there to help so it all works out and that’s why we don’t hear about it.

    I constantly read things in the news that happen to people and places and they are so awful I honestly have no idea how the people involved can move on. How do you overcome death and destruction when it is pushed into your life. How can people in war zones and weather disasters come to terms with what’s happening. How do you manage to live day by day knowing that arbitrarily you could die very easily for some reason because of the place you are stuck in.

    This little kitten dying is very small in reality when compared with what’s out there. The little lesson I am milking out of it in order to be able to move on might seem ridiculous to many people. Perhaps they could ignore it. I couldn’t. I couldn’t sleep that night. I had to have all this in my head for a while but now I think I’m slowly starting to come to terms with it all.

    I think that if humans struggle and feel pain and suffering and they get things like PTSD – that animals do too. How would mama and the other kittens have handled one of them dying hung there on a rope? I think they’d be very disturbed. I think it would greatly affect their emotional development. It’s not a fear of humans or noises or cars or obvious things that come from it but a fear of chance objects, timing and nature itself. For other cats it probably just sends out the message that they die, arbitrarily and at anytime, and there is nothing they can do to avoid it in some instances.

    When something like that happens it brings you closer to the other side. Closer to death. You feel it so close. Just a few moments away. A couple of small decisions away. A few meters away. When you escape it, when you manage to avoid it and everything is fine once again so quickly it is also very strange. You almost can’t believe what happened. The kitten started playing pretty soon after and the whole picture was again perfect, beautiful and happy. But the thing that doesn’t go away is the feeling of proximity to disaster.

    • yikes you are right! Had to stop reading.

      BTW anybody who has snow globes in their home should get rid of them.

      They fall, smash and the cats lap up the liquid because it tastes sweet to them – because it has antifreeze in it. It kills them. No more snow globes, especially where cats can knock them off shelves. That’s my advice anyway – yes – I did read about the worst happening to a cat due to a snowglobe getting broken.

      • Well isn’t that basically the only thing you can do with something like that…. I mean what doesn’t kill you should make you stronger. I guess the point is that some things force you to confront fears and those things can’t be ignored simply because you are scared. So whether you like it or not, that energy is going to have an effect on you and your way of thinking.
        It’s easy to be lazy and destructive in the face of a terrible unlucky experience and to close yourself from life and never take risks again…etc, but living according to ones fears is a dead end road. Gotta face them and go through them.

        Logically and obviously, the only way to handle fearful, confusing or painful experiences is to use them as a way to try to improve yourself so that you become stronger and wiser as a result.

        • I agree things like this do in fact make you stronger within yourself. They are like Things you have to go though. I’ve had a few hard things that ive learnt to grow though and they do make you a better person for it. Without you being there that little kitten would’ve survived. Yes a situation like this certainly is very hard emotionally and physically its hard to understand the whys it might also give you the reason of what you did. Im sure the mama cat was thankful for what you did. Good on u anyway

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