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Substituting Dogs and Cats For Children — 21 Comments

  1. Grammar and spelling police on me also…
    I don’t agree that human relationships, at least in the romantic sense, are essential. The need to feel loved and appreciated may be somewhat essential. But, a cat can fulfill those needs.
    I only have guesses as to why human relationships fail. One is that women have evolved more than men. Women are in the corporate world now, competing, and no longer accept a relationship that doesn’t involve mutual respect and sharing. A second is that men are sexually driven and usually inept in that department. Women are better at it, faster, and more efficient alone. Men are not needed in that way.
    For women like myself, we are always drawn to individuals that have a deep passion and commitment for some altruistic cause and work toward it every minute of every day; not those men who have a passion for the meaningless, mindless games of golf or football.
    Cats provide the comfort that we need. Their love is without conditions or boundaries. Their acceptance is unfailing. They have the willingness and ability to really “learn” us.
    It doesn’t get any better than that.

  2. I’m happy that someome else knows that cats “learn” us.
    At the moment, I have 22 completely indoor cats. I, fully, believe that they understand what I’m saying or, at least, the jist of it.
    These are the words that come out of my mouth day in and day out:
    Mommy needs just a little bit of coffee now.
    Please don’t hog the food; everybody wants some.
    No, I’m not opening another can.
    What the hell…
    You can’t live on tuna alone.
    I love you so much.
    Where is my hair clip, Damon?
    Who did this?
    Where are you Damon?
    They know me like a book and understand me completely.

  3. My cats aren’t a substitute for anything. They are the real deal 🙂 I love nature and wildlife, so feel very privileged to share my home and an emotional bond with a semi-wild animal.

    Dee, you’re so right when you say “They have the willingness and ability to really “learn” us.”

    That unspoken understanding of each other and our moods, is often better than we can expect from our human companions, who in theory should be better at communicating with us.

  4. On second thought, I’m not the psychotherapist amongst us. Just a lowly nurse.
    Perhaps, someone else could better address this. If not, I’ll take it on for sure.

  5. The feeling of loneliness is very curable.
    There should be a course called “How to interact with your environment and feel fulfilled”.

  6. I don’t agree that a cat should be labeled a “substitute” for anything. They stand on their own merit. Their purpose isn’t to fulfill our lives, just as any human can’t fulfil the life of another.

    We need to let go of the myth that any 2 human beings can ever live together completely harmoniously. Perhaps there’s a chance should they be brought up together in a controlled environment where they were exposed to the same of everything. But, even then, it’s doubtful. No 2 human beings bear the same frame of reference, the experiences that make each of us unique. But, we keep deluding ourselves into thinking that “happily ever after” really exists.

    Although cats aren’t substitutes for anything, they are far easier to live along side than humans. They can be similar to very small children in that they are dependent and view the world as wondrous. Children grow, change, and view us differently with every passing year. Not so much with cats.

  7. I don’t consider loneliness a problem. I consider it a solution. People lie, steal, cheat and break your heart. Pets do none of that. After what I’ve been through and the shape of this world today with all the problems I’ll stay single and love my pets and not apologize for any of it.

      • After I lost my ex to cancer I made the decision to steer clear of relationships and devote my life to animals. I’ve since quit smoking and been off of anxiety medication for more than 3 years now so I think it was a good decision for me.

        • Nice answer Elisa. A good one. There is a nice certainty with animal companions. Personally I think my health would be better if I had had a really supportive good woman to whom I could have returned support.

          • I don’t agree that a cat should be labeled a “substitute” for anything. They stand on their own merit. Their purpose isn’t to fulfill our lives, just as any human can’t fulfil the life of another.
            We need to let go of the myth that any 2 human beings can ever live together completely harmoniously. Perhaps there’s a chance should they be brought up together in a controlled environment where they were exposed to the same of everything. But, even then, it’s doubtful. No 2 human beings bear the same frame of reference, the experiences that make each of us unique. But, we keep deluding ourselves into thinking that “happily ever after” really exists.
            Although cats aren’t substitutes for anything, they are far easier to live along side than humans. They can be similar to very small children in that they are dependent and view the world as wondrous. Children grow, change, and view us differently with every passing year. Not so much with cats.

            • I agree that despite the fact that people as couples don’t get on a lot of the time it is still an essential part of our lives and the relationship with a person cannot be substituted by a relationship with a cat. That is the only point that is being made in this article. I don’t think people believe, unless they’re very young, that they can live happily ever after with somebody. Despite the arguments and despite the problems that exist within human relationships they are an essential part of us. Cats are easier to live with. I agree that too. But that does not change the dynamics of this situation.

              • I don’t agree that human relationships, at least in the romantic sense, are essential. The need to feel loved and appreciated may be somewhat essential. But, a cat can fulfill those needs.
                I only have guesses as to why human relationships fail. One is that women have evolved more than men. Women are in the corporate world now, competing, and no longer accept a relationship that doesn’t involve mutual respect and sharing. A second is that men are sexually driven and usually inept in that department. Women are better at it, faster, and more efficient alone. Men are not needed in that way.
                For women like myself, we are always drawn to individuals that have a deep passion and commitment for some altruistic cause and work toward it every minute of every day; not those men who have a passion for the meaningless, mindless games of golf or football.
                Cats provide the comfort that we need. Their love in without conditions or boundaries. Their acceptance is unfailing. They have the willingness and ability to really “learn” us.
                It doesn’t get any better than that.

          • You need to consider growing older as a gift. A lot of people have been denied that. If I found a man who was as passionate about cats I might chance a relationship. Most that I find who are live half a world away and it’s dangerous meeting possible relationships using any type of social media.

  8. My personal experience as a bachelor and having had different pets during my lifetime is that fellow human companionship cannot be replaced by your pets. Agreed,that you can live alone with your pets as i do with my two cats at home in Mumbai.The cats provide me with non-judgmental companionship and relief from “Writers Block” as a traveller/blogger.I do have human companionship and do mingle with fellow humans during tour and treks.No person can just live alone with their pets akin to a “Robinson Crusoe” as it could lead to severe mental disillusion.I am still relatively young and shudder at the thought of old age and being confined to a house with only my pets .In India unlike the Western World we do not have “FREE” old age homes or hospice care for the lonely or aged. Thankfully i am still in the pink of health and “Old Age” is still in the distant future and till then hope to make the most use of living on Planet Earth.Who knows, i might seal a human bond through marriage or find a life-long human companion or worse, might die young ! I subscribe by the famous “James Bond Movie title ” which i have twisted to say, quote, “YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE AND NOT TWICE.MAKE THE BEST USE OF YOUR LIFE ON PLANET EARTH” !

    • I think we have the same mentality. I love cats and their companionship but it lacks what human companionship and mutually human support can bring. Yes, human relationships can be hell but that is part of the territory, the nature of humans.

      It is easy to slip into loneliness and old age comes faster than you imagined.

  9. Just because you have kids doesnt mean they be around when you get old.Now my kitties will be here and yes I am tied down.I dont trust anyone to care for them over 1 night or 2.

    • Yes, Nancy, agreed. There is no guarantee the kids will even like their parents. I suppose the message is to keep up human relations in anyway you can and if you are lucky enough to have a really great marriage that is genuinely supportive you are lucky indeed.

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