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  1. Cats don’t lose the ability to recognise their cohabitee cats.

    They are often traumatised by the sudden absence of their close cohabitee. The smell aspect, is at best secondary, a reinforcer of the shock of absence/return.

    Think of the group of likely behaviours of the cat steward when a beloved cat goes missing.

    Humans reveal the results of all their stresses, even when they think they don’t or try not to. Also the stink of human fear/anxiety, the cat responds strongly to this and also the emotional trauma of their companion on return, be it from the vet or from being lost.

    Cats do not forget who the returning cat is, they are not idiots with no long term memory of shape, form or smell. Bum sniffing will confirm who the cat is as well.

    Humans come up with these explanations/judgements to bolster their erroneous belief that humans are superior to other species. Yep, humans are that insecure.

    Separating the cats is about the worst thing to do. Close supervision, calm and kindness, are the best way to deal with this. Scent mingling will help, but like most matters pertaining to humans interacting with other species the outcome will be predicted by the actions of the human.

    I have never had this occur with any cats I have cared for. That is a lot of cats over my whole life. Not one hiss of fear, not one fight on return of a missing cat or a protracted absence at the vet surgery. I believe this phenomenon comes about when there is something amiss in the home situation and the cat’s behaviour is not well observed, understood and humans allow their stresses, fears, relief to swamp the situation.

    One cannot emphasise the importance of calm when caring for other species.

    Ask Metafilter is heaving with Qs from clueless cat stewards. Often the language they use to describe companion cats behaviour indicates that all is not well between cats, home & steward.

    • Thanks Jane. The feline non-recognition aggression problem occurred with one my cats many years ago. They were siblings. The female fell into a tub of solid white paint! She traipsed over the carpet! I had to bathe her which removed her scent. Her brother hissed at her. She groomed herself and within a few hours all was well again.

      • What a horrible accident! I wonder if it isn’t a case of non-recognition, rather the hiss was one of alarm/fear, with the newly bathed sibling? I am glad all was well in the end. Sounds like you handled it very well.

        Jeff Masson is an interesting author to explore on interpretation of fear & aggression by humans in other non human species.

        …also Jonathan Balcombe.

        • I had a similar experience, but it only lasted a day. The aggression came from the cat that got outside rather than the one at home.

          I have siblings, a male and a female, Hansel and Gretel, both indoor-only. At the time they were both still very young, I don’t remember if they still were older kittens or a little over a year old. My girl got out as my elderly father was bringing in groceries. I wasn’t at home at the time, but my father told me that she first went along the narrow pedestrian path to another house, then turned back, run, and hid under the bush next to my door. My father didn’t know how to get her out, hadn’t thought of calling me, but was just checking on her. After about 3 hours she came back, saw her brother, run straight to him and attacked. They’d been play-fighting before, but this was different. He got scared – in spite of being 1.5 her size – run into a cat tunnel I’d just bought for him, and defecated there, probably from stress, then jumped on a kitchen counter and hid in the corner.

          When I got home from work I saw immediately that something was wrong as they were hissing at each other, screaming, had their ears flattened. I got treats out and started giving it to them which seemed to have distracted them. I then fed them, and it seemed to help even if every now and then they’d lift their heads from the bowl and hiss at each other.

          They hissed at each other throughout the evening, but went back to being friends the next day. Nowadays, 4 years later, he is chasing her, but it doesn’t look serious: he’d come up to her, starts grooming her, she tolerates it for a few moments, starts attacking him, they fight, she runs away. Sometimes he comes up to her and tries to attack, she defends herself, then runs away. At other times she starts it. It always ends up with her running away as he is much bigger.

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