Are you like Tabitha Miles who lives in Essex, England. She is 40 years and has consistently put off her boyfriends with her love of cats. She cares for two at the moment: Foxy a Birman and Wolfie a Maine Coon. Tabitha is called “Tabby” – neat for a cat lover. Wolfie is a tabby Maine Coon, incidentally.
Tabby tells her boyfriends that her cats sleep with her in bed. Guess what her boyfriends do when they hear that? Yes, they disappear.
Over dinner her conversation turns to….guess what? Yes, cats. It’s the last dinner she’ll be taken out to by her boyfriend. No matter; she goes out to dinner herself with her cats 😉 So much simpler and manageable.
Tabby spends £4,000 annually on caring for her cats. The usual amount for the average good cat guardian is around £10,000-£15,000 over the cat’s lifetime. She clearly loves cats with a passion and her love is shown in her excellent cat caretaking.
Tabby obviously likes men and wants a steady boyfriend and a long-term relationship but she loves her cats too much (more?). Her cat love leaves little room for a human companion. I think that she is resigned to it.
I wonder, though, if it would be the same if she had a passionate love of dogs instead of cats? Do you think that kind of animal love would put off her suitors as much as cats? No, I don’t believe so.
There is a little bit of the “crazy cat women” syndrome here, which is a factor why men are put off. Perhaps she is also picking the wrong men. There are men who love cats. The problem is that she probably prefers the sort of man who likes dogs, which is where the clash is.
Tabby’s relationship problems are not just about her love of cats. It is also about her love of a certain sort of man and that can never be altered. It is hard-wired into the brain.
I expect though that she will eventually find a man when she is about 55-60 years-of-age. At that time a relationship is more about practicalities and less about passion so the bed isn’t so important anymore. She’ll mellow a bit and open her heart to a special cat loving man.
Boyfriend won’t let her adopt a shelter cat and she is in tears
Research funded by the discovery+ television channel found that 93% of cat owners will not give up their cat for love. In other words, when push comes to shove, a cat owner will keep their cat and allow their lover to go their own way. I suspect that this is about one partner making demands on the other to get rid of the cat. Under the circumstances the cat owner will not comply and allow their partner to walk away from the relationship. The study interviewed 2000 Britons between the age of 18 and 64. It also revealed that people won’t change their religion in the interests of love. It is suggested that the British know their boundaries and they know the limits of what they are willing to do for their partner.
Note: the story was published in September 2014. I have updated it by adding the section about the study which is relevant to the story. And in doing so I republish the article today July 24, 2022.
Story source: Daily Mail.
Thanks Michael for Deleting that Comment. He really is an Unhappy Human Being. I felt Quite offended what he said about degrading women and Cats. Its a Sad world we Live in.
It is a sad world. People like him make it worse.
Exactly he certainly has no Idea about what he says offends others.
Very realistic article, thanks MICHAEL 🙂
Oh puhleaze!! This is a no brainer!…deleted because it is disgusting (admin).
You really are a Very Sad Sad Sadisitic Man. WHo will die an unhappy Man. THank GOd I Never KNew you. GO back to where you came From and Get a LIFE!!!!
This certainly is a no-brainer.
Goodbye Jerk and “Hello Kitty”.
Agree!!!
Not wanting to come across as shrouded in cobwebs here, but there was a time when men and women weren’t Trobiand Islanders in their breezy approach to ‘long-term relationships’(as in rudderless ships with fishnet sails).
Is there something seriously wrong in spending at least a year getting to know each other above the eyebrows and even – gasp! – marrying before taking up the horizontal? Is there a reason to pity this woman? What is it she’s missing? A string of recreational gynecologists?
As for droning on non-stop about her cats during a dinner-date–she sounds as if she’s in the grip of a monomania, and might want to consider getting herself a library card.
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ps Howdy Ruthie — Speaking of libraries, will try to get up there tomorrow and drop you an e-mail. xx
I cant believe why people would be put off as she only got two Cats!!! But, as I read on further perhaps its abit too much. Especialy when she takes the Cat out to dinner??? I mean I love my Cats dearly and wouldnt have them any other way. Obviously she loves her Cats abit Too much. Especially when im Looking to going out on my own again 🙁 Which im looking forward too. I Guess Sometimes you’ve got to work out what you want if you want a Realtionship. I mean its hard enough to looking after myself let alone anyone else.
I agree you wouldn’t think caring for 2 cats would be a barrier to getting a long-term boyfriend but as you say she is too involved with them as far as the men in her life are concerned.
Yea well 2 arent that bad compared to 5 or 10 lol or even more. Yes I just think she maybe took it too Far. I mean I involve my Cats in Most things, but would anyone really honestly want to take there cats out to dinner with a new gf or BF? I just think need to have a balance as, as well do Cats really like that. Just like with People who have Dogs. Also myself being a Cat Person I dont think I’d be wanting to go with someone who is a Dog Person. I know when other Dogs come here for a Visit. Im always in Trouble with the Cats. They Give me the Horrible Looks.
Tabitha may or may not eventually find a cat loving man, but I hope she never settles for one who doesn’t.
I almost made the biggest mistake of my life becoming engaged and planning to marry Tom, until we had a big row and he confessed he hated all animals including cats (yes with a name like Tom lol) Why he ever dated a girl who worked for vets is a mystery but I had a lucky escape, can’t imagine my life without cats in it!
Agree. I never had to really worry about Men when I had Cats. As Most of the People Loved Cats just as much as I did. I would never be with somone that had dogs. I think also I have more standards now. Realtionships dont mean as much now Friends are more importatnt.