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You struggle to cope with life. You lose your temper with your cat. — 14 Comments

  1. Sandra, I think that your cat stretching out is probably a ploy to sweeten you into changing your mind about letting her outside. Cats are clever and know just how to schmooze us 😉

    I don’t allow my cats outside when it’s dark, but one of my cats Merlin was unhappy with that rule. He would sit by the door every evening meowing non-stop for about 20 minutes and when that didn’t work, the meows would then become pitiful, kitten like mewling. Another 20 minutes later, the mewling turned into full on caterwauling, until he would eventually give up and disappear upstairs to begin pulling clothing out of drawers in protest (lol).

    The only way we broke him of the behaviour was to ignore it completely. Even making eye contact was a no-no because that would mean he’d know he’d got our attention. (Merlin would often glance across to see if we’d noticed him howling). It took almost two months, and sometimes we even had to leave the room, but eventually Merlin accepted that he was not going to get his way on this point.

  2. My cat often cries because she want to go out. She will go to the door, and cry loudly. Mostly I just say “NO” loudly, but sometimes I splash her with water.

    She has a new habit, which is kind of funny. After I say “NO”, she will lay down on her side, and stretch out. Usually when she does this, it’s a message to me that she wants me to pet her, or rub her tummy.

    So, it could be her way of making sure I’m not mad at her, or a ploy to try to change my mind about letting her out. I’m not sure about this. Does anyone have a suggestion?

  3. As a “SPECULATOR” by profession there have been times when i have lost large sums of money but never ever took out my frustration on the house pets.In fact it was the opposite,. I sought solace from my misery in the company of my cats or my late parakeet as they would be non-judgmental about my human foolishness or simple “Bad-Luck”. I have at times disciplined my cats by scolding them but have never ever made them the scapegoat for my own personal worries or monetary imbalances.

  4. Specially PINKY my cat walk within my feet where I go she is attached to my right side foot and due to the danger that she does not mess up with a “press” of my foot. I just kick her away a slow slide style. Not a footballers kick. Its like my feet are sliding on ice. But it helps only for a minute or two, again she is under my legs and touching rubbing her head.

    What can I do? it is her habbit from the kittenhood, so is LAILA her daughter the same 🙂

  5. I feel like Diane.Cats make bad days better.But I have this little blind and deaf dog.He barks at my cats.He gets on the cats nerves.They have to jump up on a table to get away from him.I fuss at him,but he cant hear it ,so I pick him up and put him in a room by himself sometime. That is about as mean as I get.

    • Nancy, you’re a sweet lady. It seems that the regular visitors and contributors to PoC are a calm bunch who go to their cats to de-stress themselves rather than taking out their stress on their cat. Great. This is what I’d expect.

  6. We need to be mature and be rational, not just with cats but in everything in our lives , and that is when we don’t abuse our pets. It takes a moment to reflect, and then to think that this pet is a fragile living being, and we will not abuse of our cats. Meditate

  7. I’d never harm or discipline my cats physically, but I have snapped at them verbally on occasion. Mainly this has been when they’ve been charging around and nearly knocked my off my feet. I always say sorry afterwards though and they never seem offended.

    Cats will forgive us (and other cats they live with) the occasional lapse, but repeated maltreatment will result in them becoming fearful or seeking a new home if they have access to outdoors.

    Have to agree with Diane. I’d never take a stressful day out on my cats. Stroking them and hearing them purr can be the perfect antidote to stress 🙂

    • Thanks Michele. It is nice to know that you occasionally have words with your cat. You seem so ‘perfect’ as a cat guardian. I think I’ll have to do a page about you 😉 . I hope you agree that cat owners who are less committed and knowledgeable might on occasions act as I suggest in the article.

      You turn stress into something positive in your relationship with your cat. This seems to be a sign of an excellent cat caretaker.

      • Yes, there’s been more than one of my cats who’ve heard me utter “Oh for Christ’s sake!” when they’ve tripped me on the stairs or bowled into me when they’ve been having a mad half hour 😉

        I’m sure that some people who physically take their stress out on the cat, will immediately regret it and want to make amends. Hopefully by recognising their mistake they will avoid doing so again in the future.

        Sadly there are too many who see animals as punch-bags and those are the people who should never be be allowed to have them. Unfortunately this kind of behaviour goes on behind closed doors and if the victim has no access to escape, their plight goes on undetected.

        • Agreed. We don’t how big a problem this is. I have a feeling it is bigger than we think it is, even if we think about it.

          I am becoming more word blind. There was a typo in the title which I have corrected – the first word, “your” to “you”. I have no idea why I typed “your”. I worry sometimes about this.

  8. Michael, great post!!! but I have never taken a bad day out on my kitties — seriously!! If anything, if I’ve had a bad day, they are my comfort and make all the pains (from whatever) go away. . . the unconditional love I feel from them is immeasurable, and they ALWAYS make things so much better for me. I couldn’t get through life, in general, without them (or my son). . . I feel truly blessed when I am with them. . . ♥♥♥

    • Well, if I wrote a good post you have written a great comment. Perfect comment for the article. The exact opposite to what I suggest might happen, which I find very constructive, sensible, practical and loving.

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