Men need to express their true opinions about their liking of cats. Men tend to lie about things to present a masculine or macho front in order to fit in.
More than 90% (9 out of ten) men admit to lying about enjoying sport1. They do it to impress their friends, colleagues and sometimes their boss at work, in order to fit in. Two UK sports are highlighted in a study: football and Formula 1 motor racing.
61% of men faked an interest in football. 52% of men faked an interest in F1 motor racing1. They said they enjoyed motor racing so they can could get on at work and fit in with other men, yet they hated the noise of motor racing and the fact that no one can tell who is leading the race unless a commentator tells you. F1 motor racing has become ridiculously complicated.
What about cats? Ruth (aka Kattaddorra) made an interesting point in another post . It is an idea which I had totally overlooked and which I had not thought about: it is nice when men show a more sensitive side and say they like cats.
I find it odd that men don’t express their liking of cats (I presume that some don’t). What percentage of men lie about their love for cats to other men? We have no idea. To like cats is not macho enough. It is way too girly for some men. They believe that male colleagues will take the piss out of you if you tell them you like cats. This is stupidity. It is fake macho nonsense.
Men need to express their true opinions. I bet there are many men who like cats but keep quiet for fear of being branded not masculine enough. I love cats. If these silly blokes who are critical of male cat lovers were to meet me they would understand that you don’t have to be gay or effeminate to love cats. Lots of men love cats. They care for them brilliantly.
I actually believe that as many men that love cats also love dogs although the accepted view is that men overwhelmingly prefer dogs.
The Samaritans is a British charity that provides telephone support to people in need for whatever reason. In a study it was found that most men who contact the Samaritans want to talk about loneliness2.
Most men are dependent on wives or girlfriends for emotional support. When the relationship breaks down they are deprived of it. They become desperate.
I believe that a lot of men could ease the discomfort of loneliness if they looked after a cat. They will have to open up and admit that they like cats or explore that possibility. Perhaps they have never given it a thought. They should. Cats keep many single, independent and intelligent women company.
For the majority of people I will guess that a cat will never fully substitute the loss of a human partner but in many cases a cat will be a good subsitute provided the man is open to the idea and therefore in contact with his emotions.
Refs:
- Times Newspaper 20th Sept 2013 page 8
- Times Newspaper 20th Sept 2013 page 4
Men who know nothing about cats or don’t like cats tend to think men who do like cats aren’t masculine. It seems that men who love cats and live with them aren’t afraid to admit this to anyone else, men included provided that they too also love cats; this is because they have something in common! My hubby loves cat chat with other men who also have cats ‘my Alfie does this and my ozzie does that’ is the way it goes. Its lovely and I think most women prefer men who don’t demonstrate all this macho rubbish.
Men! get real! Get in touch with your your femine side! Its far more attractive!
I really dislike all this macho rubbish, I like a man to be kind, gentle and honest and to admit he loves cats without shame. Hmmm I’ve just described my late husband John there. Seriously though what is with all this display of aggression and why do some men these days feel the need to have a horrible pared-to-the-bone fighting type dog as a badge of masculinity? Real men visit PoC!!
I think it has got a lot worse, the macho men thing. I think it is because the world is becoming more competitive, more of a rat race. There was an interesting story in the papers recently about army personnel muscle building more than they used to and using supplements that are potential health problems. I just think the world has become more difficult, ruder and, as a say, more competitive which leads men to respond by being more macho. That is just a guess.
I think you’re right, in the good weather the muscle vests were out, showing the tattoos, while the testosterone louts swaggered showing off their macho-ness. It just makes me think YUCK! Everyone seems so bold nowadays, no refinement whatsoever! Where is that time machine, lets go back a bit I say.
Babz and Michael I know what you mean I just think men with vicious dogs are lacking in something and have to have a status symbol because they know that deep down they are nothing but insipid wimps. I hate to see these men showing off their unattractive bodies in the summer 🙁 You’re lucky Babz if the ones round by you wear vests round here they go bare chested! Worse!! Yuk!!