Cat behavior explained by the real experts
Overview: Cat behavior explained? I asked regular and valued visitors to this site to write about “cat behavior”. Their mini-essays are published below. Unprompted, they wrote about human behavior. This is correct. You cannot ignore the most significant factor with regards to cat behavior, which is our expectations, the environment that we create for ourselves and our cat, and how we interact with them. Cats are very sensitive to their environment. Their behavior reflects their environment. We create the environment.
Note: this was first published in around 2010! I cleaned it up a little and republished it as I think it needs to be read.

Unhappy cat held in the wrong way makes a strange sound which has been described as a bark but it is a modified meow. It’s a sound which is saying ‘put me down’. I don’t think I’ve seen a cat communicate more clearly what they want and demonstrated to their owner how annoyed they are at their owner’s behaviour.
The authors are highly qualified on the subject of cat behavior but their voice is yet to be formally heard. The name of the person heads the text.
There are many such people. You don’t have to be a cat behavior expert who is widely published to explain cat behavior. You need to rely on common sense and have a deep respect for the cat born out of a general respect for all creatures.
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Our cat is a domesticated African wild cat. It happened 10,000 years ago but if we reference back to wild cat behavior we will understand domestic cat behavior. Fundamentally, the domestic cat is a cat’s whisker away from the wild cat.
If you would like to read an in-depth article about all aspects of cat behavior, this page might help.
To: Cat Breeds A-Z – Wild Cats – Cat History – Cat Sounds
Grahame – Au contraire, it is human behavioural problems…
“It’s really too bad that we cannot get articles from the cats themselves on the topic of human behavioural problems as experienced by domestic cat companion animals.
You know by now that my take on these things, on long experience with many cat companions, is that human behaviour influences the cat behaviour and sets the tone. In over 65 years of living with cats, I have yet to experience what might be called a feline behavioural problem.”
Valley Girl – Important point about correct expectations
~For example, I think that correct expectations from us are important as people with the correct expectations do not see normal cat behavior as problem behavior which is how it is sometimes described.~
Clawing of furniture would be one example– especially for an indoor cat. One of the ways that cats remove the older layers of claws is to claw on things. All of my collection of shed cat claws comes from Tootsie’s cat claw towers, or nearby.
A cat’s gotta do what a cat’s gotta do. Like take care of their claws.
A very few times Tootsie tried clawing furniture, or the bed springs. I’d just remove her, and say “no, you don’t want to do that”, and take her to the cat tower, where she got ample reinforcement for clawing. Oh, good kitty! What a good girl! etc.
No more attempts to claw furniture.
The cat tower (surrounded with carpet) worked because it suited Tootsie. Other cats seem to like corrugated cardboard claw pads. Or sisal rope. So, it’s also a matter of figuring out what suits the cat.
Barbara – My contribution
From the moment you decide to take a kitten or cat into your family the way you think must change. Even deciding if you should choose a kitten or a grown cat is huge, for example do you have the time and patience to care for a kitten who doesn’t sleep the appx 16 hrs a day that adult cats do?
Kittens have bursts of energy and play quite violently and then fall asleep instantly only to awake shortly after and do it all over again, and this is day and night, so if you think that maybe you couldn’t cope with behavior that compares with the terrible two’s in human babies then you should consider adopting an older cat past this stage.
Another important issue to think about is do you have the patience to teach your cat right from wrong in a gentle and tolerant way? By this I mean that although cats are extremely intelligent they may not readily accept your house rules, so if you decide for example that there will be no scratching of furniture and your cat decides that in fact the sofa is ideal for the purpose of stretching muscles in the paws, legs and back and shedding claw shards have you the patience to repeatedly show your cat where he should be performing these exercises without resorting to surgically amputating his toe ends as a short cut to training?
Having made your decision and brought into the family your new feline member you now have to forever “think cat” and that is to look at every aspect of your home and decide if it is cat safe. This includes open windows; can they be guarded in some way so that your cat cannot accidentally fall out while trying to catch a housefly or a bird outside the window. Are wires to electrical appliances safely tucked away from tiny paws and mouths that know nothing of electrical shocks? Can you train yourself and your family not to step backwards without checking for a furry figure sitting behind you? Do you know which house and garden plants are safe and which are poisonous to cats?
This knowledge could mean life or death to your cat.You should also decide if your cat will be a member of the family with full rights to enjoy home comforts. Will he be allowed access to the lounge and bedroom? Some people think allowing cats onto beds is unclean, my opinion is I am honoured when my cat chooses to crawl into bed and into my arms, such moments are beautiful and show perfectly how much trust he has in me to allow me to hold him in the vulnerability of his sleep.
I guess the true cat lover realises that most of the adapting will be done by the humans, we are the ones that choose to adopt the cat, we know that cats are animals with instincts for different behavior to us, we know that cats have claws and teeth, we know they need regular grooming, play, a bed, access to clean water, litter, quality food and veterinary attention, in fact in the UK our Animal Welfare law quite rightly demands this so in the end the most important thing to consider is can you provide the cat with everything he needs, wants and deserves?
Ruth – aka Kattaddorra
The key to understanding a cat is to realise that what is bad behavior in a human is not the same in a cat. A new cat caretaker may have different expectations about a kitten. Encouraging him to play rough by rolling him over and tickling his tummy may be amusing but it gives the wrong message to the kitten. When he grows up he will be confused as to why it is wrong to bite and kick his human family’s hands and feet.
Stop a kitten from biting inappropriately by silently distracting him. Have cat toys handy and put one gently by his mouth or throw it for him to chase. When he grabs the toy, praise him saying his name. He soon learns that bad behavior brings silence, good behavior brings praise. To stop him scratching a person or the furniture, follow the same rule. Silently lift him to his scratching post and praise him saying his name when he uses it. It’s easy to show a kitten how to do that by dragging your own nails down while he watches, then gently guide his front legs up the post until he digs in his claws.
Scratching is not bad behavior in a cat, it is necessary behavior. He will soon learn that using his own furniture brings him praise. Cats need consistency and routine. Gently lifting him down from places he won’t be allowed when he is bigger teaches him if he goes there he will be removed. Punishment is unkind and pointless. The cat only becomes nervous of the person punishing him. They learn by kindness and patience. A mother cat keeps her kittens under control by carrying them by the scruff of their necks but a human should never pick up a kitten or a cat by the scruff unless in an emergency and there is no other way to handle him. A cat’s whole body needs support on being picked up. Reach down with both hands and hold him with one while making a seat with the other, always slowly and gently.
Cats should never be lifted by their front legs, the whole weight of their body on those legs can cause dislocation of the joints. Although cats have been domesticated for thousands of years now, they still have their wild instincts deep inside and a threatened or frightened cat will naturally lash out.
It’s wrong to praise a cat if he catches a mouse, yet to show displeasure if he catches a bird. He doesn’t know that although most people dislike mice, they admire birds. Even well-fed cats have the hunting instinct. It’s Nature’s way of ensuring the survival of the fittest. A cat needs food and water in a regular place, a warm bed and the love and understanding of his human family. He likes attention and fun and games but he also likes to sleep in peace and should be allowed to do so.
Children need to learn to handle a kitten gently and to respect when he wants to sleep that they should leave him alone. A cat needs privacy for his toileting needs, his litter tray should be placed in a quiet corner and nowhere near the place he is normally fed. Cats hate to be laughed at but they love it if you laugh with them and soon learn how to create a happy atmosphere in the home.
Ruth (Monty’s Mom)
“What’s my motivation?” You might hear an actor or actress ask this question when trying to get into character. It’s a good question. We all have things that motivate us: we desire things like food and rest, but we also desire to be loved, to acquire possessions, or to have a good time. Understanding what motivates a person can be a key to understanding his or her behavior. So what motivates cats? I would say, quite often, it is the desire to hunt and kill something. Cat behavior is in reality the behavior of a predator, for he is one of nature’s best predators. The wonder and miracle is that these fierce little creatures will condescend to share our homes with us. This does not mean that house cats are not predators. You cannot totally take that wild element from cats, even if you take their claws. They are still hunters, but hunters without their natural weapons. Declawing a cat will undoubtedly cause psychological damage, because their claws are so much a part of their essential nature.
My message to those who would understand cat behavior is to look always to a cat’s place in the wild, for what he is there is what he still is even when he is sleeping on your bed at night. Responsible cat caretakers will keep this in mind. A variety of toys are needed to provide stimulation for inside only cats. Scratching posts of various heights and sizes should be provided. If a cat is allowed outside, cat enclosures are a good option. Some cats will tolerate a leash and harness. I believe it is good for cats to experience the outdoors, so long as they are safe doing so.
When outside in our fenced yard with my cat Monty, I will often scare away potential prey. This causes him to look at me as if I am hopelessly stupid. I must confess, I have not always been quick enough to prevent Monty from taking the life of a bird. (This has happened frequently enough that my sister has taken to calling him “Killer.”) His killing of birds is where our differing motivations come into conflict. Monty played out his role as predator perfectly, and though I couldn’t bring myself to praise him for it, I did not scold him.
But I took the reminder to heart: A cat is not a throw pillow. He is not just something to snuggle and hold on the cold winter nights. He is a predator by nature and will always be a predator, no matter how pampered or well fed. It would be much easier to possess a furry little throw pillow, but it would be far less interesting. We can learn from our cats if we are willing to treat them as cats by respecting that their motivations and drives are at times quite different from our own.
Edward
Well now I can speak from over 40 years of experience with cats as when me and my twin sister were born our parents had 4 so we always had cats in our life and knew no different.
The secret of having happy and good cats is simply that its best to have a relaxed household.
You have to understand that cats are not kids and our parents didnt treat them like they did us kids because they wouldnt have liked it. Cats are not people so shouldn’t be expected to behave as we do.
We had to learn right from wrong and how people have to behave for others to accept us but cats are different. You have to accept that cats are cats and behave by their instinct not by their thoughts like we do.
So if we were rough with a cat and got scratched it was our fault as we had got told to be nice and not pester the cats.
Our mam said she never left us alone with the cats until we proved we were responsible enough to treat them right. It’s not cats that need to learn how to behave, it’s kids because then they grow up into sensible independant adults.
Cats always have to rely on people to look after them all their life. We grew up respecting cats and they loved us and we loved them and we both have our own cats in our own homes since we grew up.
Shouting at cats is no good and I get annoyed when people say you should hit them or even squirt water as I think what a miserable life it is for a cat frightened of their people.
People who say give them time out like some teach kids don’t know much about cats as cats don’t know what time out is for. You can tell a kid what he’s done wrong and not to do it again but you have to actually show a cat what not to do. If you hurt them they don’t know why, I don’t think anyone should hurt kids or cats.
Like I said you only need to show a cat what to do, like where to scratch, if you don’t get them a scratching post what can you expect them to scratch on? They have to scratch to keep their body fit and to keep their claws healthy as well.
If you don’t want them to go on certain places lift them off and they learn where they can or can’t go.
Another thing is that cats don’t show their feelings of illness like people show theirs so you have to know if they are not acting like they usually do there is something wrong.
They can’t tell us they get lonely if we leave them too long so we need to remember not to do that and if we have to go away we must get someone we trust to look after them.
If they can’t go out because its too dangerous then they must have things to stop them living a life of boredom. They need a lot of our attention. No one should have a cat if they can’t give him or her a cats life of happiness and love and attention. No one in countries where declawing is legal should have a cat if they don’t like their claws because cats claws are not negotiable, they are essential and taking them off them is very cruel.
Ed
(Man I need a pint after writing all that….) From cat behavior explained to home page.