Is it possible to make your cat a lap cat? It is the word ‘make’ that I don’t like as it implies forcing a cat to do something against her will and natural inclinations.
There are two overlapping reasons why a cat is a lap cat: (a) he inherited his parents’ or grandparents’ specific genes which lead him to like being on his human companion’s lap and (b) he was socialised and was in an environment in the early years of his life which encouraged him and ‘trained’ him to like being on a lap. Both of these are more or less fixed character traits in an adult cat.
When you read about cats and their character people might say he or she is a ‘lap cat’. They say this as if if is a fixed trait. It probably is.
The big question, therefore, is can you convert a cat who does not instinctively like to lie on your lap to like it?
Well, you possibly can. As mentioned the ‘lap cat’ character trait may be fixed. You may fail in making him a lap cat. Conversely, your cat might be a lap cat but this aspect of his personality might have been suppressed or knocked out of him because of the behaviour of previous owners (if he is a rescue cat who lived with previous owners). If that is the case, you’ll succeed in making him a lap cat by plenty of TLC and gentle encouragement to come onto your lap. The same can be said about feral cats. Feral cats have never had the opportunity to be a lap cat. There are many stories of feral cats become domesticated and very loving (and lap cats) but you can’t guarantee that it will work out. The underlying rule is: love, gentleness and patience.
I have been referring to random bred cats but the cat breeds are different in that skilled breeders take charge over their cats’ socialization and they’ll want to ensure that their kittens are well socialized and ideally lap cats because in general cat owners like cats to come onto their lap. The breeders want their cats to be marketable. I think you’ll find more lap cats amongt the purebreds compared to the random bred cats.
I am open to suggestions but what I’d do if my cat was not a lap cat and I wanted him to become one is to ensure that he has compete trust in me through a lot of great caretaking over a decent period of time and then gently encourage him to come onto my lap. You can pick him up and place him on your lap (if he allows it). You might feed him a treat while he is on your lap. But never force the issue. You’ll lose and make things worse.
Using a treat, as mentioned, as part of a clicker training program might work. I am suggesting that you might be able to train your cat to come onto your lap and stay there. Elisa wrote an article on clicker training or Google it to read about it. It requires some patience and commitment. Read about a Maine Coon trained to do dog-like tricks.