Yes, my cat likes to have sex with my left arm. You can see it in the video. I think it’s normal. I accept it completely. I want him to express his natural desires. It does no harm when he does it (except to gradually destroy my dressing gown) and I presume it satisfies him to a certain extent.
I don’t know whether anybody else has experienced this. Cats bite the nape of the neck of the female to keep her from fighting back. This is what you see in the photos.
Update: 2022: He is still doing it almost 8 years later! Every day when I wear this old dressing gown which is now thoroughly trashed ??. So winter is the time for this ritual.
Despite being neutered my cat has retained his sexual urges and his desire to procreate. He is frustrated in expressing that desire because of a lack of available female cats. He relates to me as his surrogate mother and a feline mother. When he has sex on my arm, in his mind he is having sex with his mother. This happens in the cat world.
It is a combination event. He also kneads and purrs. The kneading is a kitten response and replicates a kitten kneading at his mother’s breast to bring on the milk. He’s a bit mixed up? A lot of domestic cats are a little confused because they have wildcat instincts but live in a human environment. This creates distortions to their behavior.
The fleece dressing gown is important I believe because it feels like a cat. I have two dressing gowns and the other one does not elicit this reaction.
You can see his sex-drive in the eyes in this photo:
I think it’s important that a cat can express his natural desires and emotions as best as possible. Sometimes we have to compromise for the sake of safety and curtail these drives. Do you think I’m crazy to let him do this?
He does it while I am watching television sometimes, I just let him do it. Or when I read the newspaper. He’ll do for about 10-15 minutes, in all, which is quite a long time. At first, I stopped him but then I thought it was unfair. It doesn’t bother me. Somebody might think it’s a bit gross. Some people may think I’m wrong to allow it. As I said, I have to be wearing my fleece dressing gown which I presume feels like fur to him! He won’t do it when I am wearing other clothing.
I expect he will stop when he’s neutered (it did not change a thing by the way). He’s never sprayed anywhere (wrong: he sprays outside). He is generally a very well-behaved young cat but being young is a bit manic, driven by his instincts.
At the moment (2015) he goes out on a leash. He accepts his harness completely and likes it now. He knows that when it is put on him, he is going to go out. I’ve trained him to come to me so when he does go out alone, I am hopeful that I can call him back if I’m worried about his whereabouts.
The reason why he goes out on a leash at the moment is because I want him to become familiar with his surroundings. I wanted him to know where the door to his home is. If there is trouble, he can then race back and hide. After all, he is very young. And, of course, I would not let him free roam before being neutered. Update: I have moved home since, and he now free roams but it sensible thank God. Also being young he is liable to be stupid and do things which are dangerous to him due to inexperience.
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I’m trying to make is life as good as possible while also making it as safe as possible. After moving home to a house he is now confined to a garden enclosure and the house.
Below are some articles on so called ‘strange cat behavior’.
Oh I should have read some more of the replies. My cat was actually neutered quite early on, right before 6 months. Is this a sign of something serious?
I’m so glad I’ve found other people this happens to. I have a gray tabby as well, and since I can remember, he’s always “had his way” with my right shoulder. I have to be careful to properly bundle up the area though or it will look like I’ve been stabbed repeatedly with very tiny knives. He’s 14 now, and STILL does it. I don’t want to stop him because he does it so often and will purr in my ear while doing his thing. But I do wonder if this relates to his separation anxiety. There are two people in this apartment and no matter who leaves he cries and walks around checking every room until he lands on the remaining human. Then he has his way and when done, falls asleep on our lap. I think the other cat gets jealous because when he’s elsewhere she comes right up to my face and lays on me. No nursing, she just wants attention and seems unsure of how the other cat gets away with it so often. I’m starting to see why non-animal people think we’re crazy. Thank you for posting the video, I feel so much better now.
Morning Michael
Oh… it’s one of my favourite teases with any cat… I very ligthly and rapidly tap my index finger to my thumb right at the tip of the hairs…. so it almost looks like i’m slightly pulling on the hair, but it’s unnecessary… something in the act of tapping the fingers and touching only a hair or two (that is the trick… touch very very few hairs) just sends them nuts. Their whole skin crawls over their frame.
When my boy is in the height of human love; he is near the edge of sanity anyway.
loved your comment about tickling your cat. I have never heard of this before. It interests me. Do you gently brush the fur against the grain?
My cat does this to me several times a day… He’s a very gentle boy and he does no harm. I think it’s when he gets hungry and he’s telling me he’s prepared to do “anything” for food.
The only way to get him to stop is if I tickle the very tips of his fur anywhere on his body – he goes crazy; his fur ‘climbs’ all over in big waves and he chews like crazy at the tickled spot.
It’s become almost a game where i just point at the spot I’m intending to tickle and he goes nuts.
I have the same reason. It is natural for him to want to do it. Why stop natural behaviour and desires? To express natural desires helps to keep a cat happy. Thanks for sharing Ashka.