Why are domestic cats so charming?

To people who adopt domestic cats, they are very charming. It is part of their attraction. What makes them charming? It must be to do with their character and their appearance.

Domestic cat innocence is charming
Domestic cat innocence is charming. Photo on Flickr by kuhnmi. Thanks for allowing people to use your image.


This morning I watched my cat groom himself on my lap. He had been outside all night. He needed to groom himself afterwards. And he was oblivious of me. He was behaving instinctively. He was in the moment. It was charming to watch. It gave me the idea to write about it.

Domestic cats live in the moment, and they behave instinctively which gives them INNOCENCE, which humans don’t have unless they are babies. Which leads me nicely onto the appearance of the domestic cat


You must have heard cat lovers calling their cats “fur babies”. That pretty much says it all. Often the relationship between human and cat is one of mother to child, even baby.

This is partly to do with the relatively very large eyes that domestic cats have in relation to the size of their face. This is a hint at a baby-faced. Feline anatimy is attractive to women.

This has been enhanced through selective breeding with purebred cats such as the Persian.

You can then throw into the mix the cat’s fur. Everybody likes the feel of fur. This is about touch as well as appearance.

People like passing their hand through the fur of their cat companion. This is particularly relevant with respect to the British Shorthair which has dense fur.

Colours such as white and kittens are bonuses in appearance. White is pure. More innocence. Kittens too are perceived as pure of heart: an ultimate expression of innocence.


The domestic cat isn’t perfect in respect of appearance which is why some people decide to modify their cat. They customise their cat by declawing. Yes, it is the claws which are a problem too many people. They hurt sometimes. And teeth come into the equation as well. You might not believe it but some people even de-tooth their cats! Quite horrible.

But declawing and de-toothing point to the fact that the appearance of a domestic cat is very important people. They want the baby face, but they don’t want the claws

I find it very sad, by the way, that people feel obliged to customise their cat’s anatomy. I am one of those people who completely reject this concept for the simple reason that it reflects an unhealthy relationship, one in which the cat is not seen as a sentient being but as an object to keep their ‘owner’ company and entertained. And to adorn their home. And declawing is horribly cruel.


I feel that I need to return to the word “innocence”. It is a word which is strongly linked to charm. Children are innocent because they don’t carry the mental baggage of adults. The baggage of life’s experience plays a big part in decision-making for adults. It leads adult people to lie and play games. Domestic cats don’t play games unless they are “playing games” with their toys!

You know what I mean. They don’t play emotional games, messing around with other people’s emotions; like gaslighting (manipulating someone so as to make them question their own reality).

With a cat, what you see is what you get. That’s innocence. “Innocence” does not mean stupid. It means purity of thought. A clean brain without baggage. Something that people should aspire to.

Some adults actually manage to maintain a certain innocence because they don’t allow their mental baggage to affect their decision-making. This might happen voluntarily or involuntarily. These people are charming, but their emotional baggage may be manifest in different ways such as drugtaking or alcoholism.

Below are some more articles on ‘strange cat behaviour’. Not strange at all actually.

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Cat owners that look like their cats

It is said that pet owners can and sometimes do look like their pets and I am referring to cats and dogs. This topic is normally discussed in relation to dogs. Research has been carried out on why dog owners look like their dogs. It’s been scientifically proven that they can and they do although it doesn’t happen all the time.

A Japanese psychologist, Sadahiko Nakajima, proved in his study that it’s all about the eyes. People choose dogs with similar eyes to theirs and a major reason according to Nakajima is the “mere exposure effect”. People choose dogs with a similar facial appearance to themselves because there is a preference for the familiar. I will speculate that people have a preference for the familiar because it is reassuring. Humans like the reassurance of the familiar particularly in a fast-changing world that is arguably getting worse.

And now to cats. There is a brilliant photograph on the Reddit.com website published by a member of that community who said: “Someone said me and my cat lookalike”. The photograph is below.

Woman looks like her cat
Woman looks like her cat. Photo: Reddit user: u/HopieJewell

Undeniably, they do lookalike and conveniently it is mainly to do with the eyes. The eye colour is identical; a beautifully delicate, diluted blue. The hair colour is also very similar. And you could argue that the general facial appearance is similar as well.

The argument is, therefore, that, when possible, sometimes people choose cats that look like themselves. This makes sense because there should be no difference in human preference between cats and dogs. Although, arguably, it is more difficult to choose a cat that looks like yourself partly because dogs have more facial expressions or more overt facial expressions than cats because they are more social animals due to their grey wolf origin. They need to expressions for signalling.

We don’t know the percentage of people who look like their cats or dogs and this topic does not apply to me ๐Ÿ˜‰. A rescue centre gave me my cat to look after as a foster carer and I adopted him. I made no selection whatsoever. And many people adopt cats because they wander up to them. Often there is no selection but, then again, equally often there is.

Experiment to find out a dog's facial features that match up with those of their owner
Experiment to find out a dog’s facial features that match up with those of their owner. Image from the study.

I think we have to look to the eye colour to see a matchup based on Mr Nakajima’s research on dogs. He discovered that the eyes were the most important facial feature when he masked out the eyes of the dogs and their owners. This prevented the participants of the study being able to match up dog and owner. When other areas of the anatomy were masked, they were still able to match dog to owner based on the appearance of their eyes.

Although it is not always only to do with the eyes:

Owner looks like their cat
Owner looks like their cat. Photo: Gerrard Gethings who has cleverly matched them up to emphasise the similarity.

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